And answer back you donāt need that one as that leads to many moreā¦
Defo check-in, know youāve got the strengthā¦
Sending positive vibes for you, i hope you enjoy your friends company x
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Thanks Tyler! That is some serious binge watching. Should keep you busy. So sorry about your health issues!! Sounds painful. 
But glad for a negative COVID test! You are so thoughtful to reach out to so many individually. Have a great day.
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@Arsenal My dad was an Arsenal fan 
. I will only say meds alone is not enough. They can help, but u need a program, a routine of activities to keep u sober. I took anti-alcohol meds, and would find ways around it.
@Betteroffbaby Pretty normal I think. The highs and lows get steadily less extreme as u get more sober months, at least it did for me.
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Busy with summer extra-curricular activities, and thinking about adding one more. Hope I am not over-doing it, for me and the kiddos.
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Day 8 freakinnnnnn 5 Jesus 85 days in a row not touching dope . Now this is insanity lol. Nothinf but love everyone have a great day . Getting into work . I was so far gone I never thought I could be part of society again . Blessings
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Proper proud of you on not touching dopeā¦ Well done x
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Hola amigos 
I havenāt checked in here in quite a while and itās exciting to see so many new folks on their journey, people keepinā on, some asking for help when theyāre struggling, and this community doing what it does best. Thatās what itās all about! Today is 83 days AF. If I hadnāt had one drink 84 days ago, Iād be 11 months sober on Sunday. It all counts. I think thatās one of the biggest lessons Iāve learned in my journey so far. A lapse or a relapse doesnāt have to signify the end of recovery. Relapse is not inevitable, and itās not āpart of recovery,ā but it can be part of a personās recovery process looking in retrospect. I havenāt ālostā any of the days I spent sober, especially if I wasnāt hungover or preparing to drink when I felt better, like my old old patterns. I look at it as a learning process. Life is about learning, if we take the opportunity to look at it that way, and if we make a mistake we have every chance to say to ourselves that we donāt want THAT, so letās not do THAT again and letās figure out not only how to not do THAT again, but more importantly what we want to do instead. Thatās what Iām learning and will keep learning every day of my life. What kind of life do I want to live? What does that look like and what do I have the control to change, what do I have to learn to cope with thatās out of my control, how can I find the small joys that lift me up, how do I find contentment in this wild world. Iām letting go of the idea that I have to be āhappy.ā Itās an amorphous concept that usually ends up holding me back - if I break it down into what components might lead to a general happiness, it helps me wrap my mind around it. As someone who struggles with chronic pain, itās frequently a question of how I can cope with pain without becoming incapacitated, how can I find ways to distract from pain and how can I recognize and appreciate pain free days. How can I recognize what brings me joy and cultivate those moments throughout each day. How can I appreciate the world I live in most frequently in my own head while pulling myself back out to notice the world around me by practicing grounding techniques. How can I be sure to practice gratitude in a deliberate way everyday so that I donāt lose sight of all the gooooood stuff I have in my life. There are so many ways to practice recovery and wellness. I think the most important thing is to keep trying every day no matter what.
Hm. That was a random Rosa ramble. I guess itās been too long. Being at āhomeā with my parents usually does make me more contemplative than usual, I guess. One last day on my visit with family and we head home tomorrow.
Sending love and strength to you, amigos. 
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Day 420. Clean and sober today. I got really good news last night. Coreyās best friend, the one who found him that night has 3 months sober now! Iām so proud of him and even though it hurts like hell that heās gone, Corey is saving lives. Have a great day everyone, I love you guys!!! 
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Tick-tock, buttercup. Iām getting excited for you!
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You look fantastic Danni and Iām soooo proud of how far youāve come!!! Youāre kicking ass!!!
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Hey all, checking in on day 418. I hope everyone is well.
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Hi all. Checking in on Day 113 from my new city, Budapest!
I arrived safely with no drinking in the airport or on the plane. Loved your message about feeling better after not drinking on your flight @Dazercat and well done for completing your first sober one! And Iām going to follow your lead and adopt a shame free way of explaining that I donāt drink. First social gathering with new colleagues tonight and Iām just going to say I donāt and I feel better when I donāt. No lengthy explanation needed. And if people think Iām weird or boring then thatās on them, not me.
Thanks for the best wishes @Tylerdub @Mno
Iām already absolutely loving being somewhere new. It feels scary and challenging and exciting and invigorating.
Hereās a picture from the sunny streets. I would have had a wine in this picture a few months ago, but my body and mind feels so much better for not.
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Violating HIPPA privacy law is huge! Definitely contact an attorney. Iām not in law but Iāve worked in health insurance all my life and this is not to be taken lightly.
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So proud of you A. And so happy for you. What a lovely simply beautiful pic. You are a blessing.
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Today I went back to the Sober Talk group and read more comments and wrote again. I also read a dozen pages from the book Atomic Habits. I woke up this morning, fed my kids, got them ready for daycare and drove them there. I then drove downtown to a courthouse to try and pay the only vehicular fine Iāve ever received. I came home and emptied the dishwasher and loaded the dryer full of clothes and now Iām getting ready for work. I am feeling very anxious. This is only day 2 of not drinking. The book I am reading insists I try to embody the type of person I want to be. It reminds me a lot of my younger years as a leader in an insurance company. I had no problem being a leader then. So here goes:
- I am the type of person who wants to become a more successful singer.
- I am the type of person who puts his family above all else.
- I am the type of person who writes daily.
- I am the type of person who enjoys working out and eating right.
This is my check in today.
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Iām sorry you have to deal with that type of reminder so soon after his death, my thoughts are with you and your family! Iām glad to hear youāll honor his memory by staying sober. Stay strong friend
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Welcome back, I am glad you are here.
At the end of my drinking I had managed to wean myself down to about 9-12 beers over the course of the day. I was only drinking wine once a week. So that was a huge difference.
I was basically just keeping my jones at bay. I wasnāt getting drunk because I was stretching the drinking out over the whole day, but I couldnāt stop. The obsession and compulsion was still there and my body was still reliant on the drug.
Slamming a beer before I get in the car because I have to drive an hour before I would reach a pubā¦ there is something very fucking wrong with that. Buying a single and telling my kid itās OK itās only a low percentage beer, then drinking it as I drove home. Wtfā¦ thereās something very fucking wrong with that.
So yeahā¦ like Dani said we can manage our addiction only to a point. We can try to work around it so that it fits like a puzzle piece into our lives but itās never going to be comfortable. We are always going to be thinking about ways to get the first one of the day or the next one after that.
The only way that I am still clean right now is because I did EVERYTHING different to what I did before I relapsed. Honestly everything. The first time I cleaned up in 2005, I didnāt do anything that I am doing now. Soā¦ there are a lot of tools out there that I am sure you havenāt used yet. Maybe you need to see if any of them work for you.
Glad to see youāre still trying.
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What a great message. Thereās nothing like that feeling of being in an exciting new place. Keep us posted.
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Checking in on day 22
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Checking in at the end of day 215.
I remember reading a message in here a few months ago about planning a good day and then just executing that plan. Knowing that itās a reasonable plan and being able to trust yourself to carry it out because you wonāt disappear into a beer halfway through it.
Thatās what Happened today. Nothing special, just an excellent day doing things that I like doing.
Have a great sober day, wherever you are.
Goodnight. 
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The power of this app is powerfulā¦
The connection I have found with so many of you on here has helped me immensly more then I can expressā¦
I was overwhelmed when @Ravikamor gave me a necklaceā¦
I came home today to a package from Franceā¦ A lady who used to be on here, i kept in contact with and have helped each other at points of wanting to break but this again made me cryā¦ A French care package for my one yearā¦
Who knew how powerful sobriety can beā¦
Keep going in your recovery, good comes out of your commitmentā¦ Might not feel it right nowā¦
Just had to share
Feel blessed to be part of a community of such warriorsā¦
Also a lady from my rehab group reached out to me as sheās strugglingā¦ Another connection Iām thankful I haveā¦
I also have a coffee with a fellow brummie who lives where I do and was in my rehab groupā¦ A friendship I never expected
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