Morning! Just checking in from Wales. Went for a quick run and hated every minute 
Having a coffee and listening to the surf now. Have a good day all
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Thank you so much! I remember your avatar from my first soberiety pre aa attempt about 1.5 years ago! Thank you so much!!!
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Thank you for the article! Bookmarked it
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- Coffee. Busy free Friday for me. Going to Rijksmuseum for the first time since the I donāt know how manieth lockdown (sorry @apes2020 April). Got a spinning class lined up after that. Have a new/used coat/hat rack Iām going to attach to the wall. And lots of Olympics to watch. And a meal to cook. And some meditating to do (thanks @siand). And be in bed in time before my new work week starts.
Iām so happy and grateful this day doesnāt involve stupidly hanging out in the bar and drinking till wasted. So grateful I donāt do that no more. Life is so much better without it. Iām sober and clean and thatās the way I want to be. Have a great Friday all, or at least as good one as you all can. Make it clean and sober because thatās why we are all here. One day at a time. Love from Amsterdam.
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Morning walks with the dawg?!!
Need to get my fitbit steps in!!
Sporting the skater lookā¦ Pulled me back to the 90s, oh how I would love to be a teenager with the wisdom I have now!
I have a meeting with the head of inclusionā¦ Going through a few thingsā¦ The option of a rehab group just for lgbqt and Nero diverse shall be interestingā¦
I made a promise to myself that no matter how hard it got, I wouldnāt ever hide my diversity ever againā¦ Masking my whole life has had its consequencesā¦ I have been thinking alot and I am very thankful that my mother taught me alot of life skills.
I still struggle on not going to express my emotion with anger, I still struggle with impulsive behaviour and actually identifing what Iām feelingā¦ I for so long have catered for everyone else and never stopped to ask myself, how are you feeling?!?
When I left my sisters, my niece who is 8ā¦ Started crying, my sister and her other half just stood back, saying she gets over emotional the only thing I could do was embrace this little girl into a big hugā¦ I told her how Iād never forgot her and Iām here always!
I kissed this precious gemā¦ When I got into the car I cried, the tears just flowed jeez even now my eyes have teared up
And i still canāt tell you why I cried, why while I write this tears want to burst out.
It will be for me a fair few years before I can tell you what caused me to cryā¦ But for today Iām happy that I can express an emotion even if I donāt fucking understand it!
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Lucky 13.
I have an old friend coming to visit for a few days. I expect the temptation will be strong, so I have been mentally preparing myself to ride the waves.
Will make more of an effort to check in here when those voices say, āGo on, just have one. You can start again tomorrow.ā
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And answer back you donāt need that one as that leads to many moreā¦
Defo check-in, know youāve got the strengthā¦
Sending positive vibes for you, i hope you enjoy your friends company x
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Thanks Tyler! That is some serious binge watching. Should keep you busy. So sorry about your health issues!! Sounds painful. 
But glad for a negative COVID test! You are so thoughtful to reach out to so many individually. Have a great day.
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@Arsenal My dad was an Arsenal fan 
. I will only say meds alone is not enough. They can help, but u need a program, a routine of activities to keep u sober. I took anti-alcohol meds, and would find ways around it.
@Betteroffbaby Pretty normal I think. The highs and lows get steadily less extreme as u get more sober months, at least it did for me.
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Busy with summer extra-curricular activities, and thinking about adding one more. Hope I am not over-doing it, for me and the kiddos.
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Day 8 freakinnnnnn 5 Jesus 85 days in a row not touching dope . Now this is insanity lol. Nothinf but love everyone have a great day . Getting into work . I was so far gone I never thought I could be part of society again . Blessings
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Proper proud of you on not touching dopeā¦ Well done x
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Hola amigos 
I havenāt checked in here in quite a while and itās exciting to see so many new folks on their journey, people keepinā on, some asking for help when theyāre struggling, and this community doing what it does best. Thatās what itās all about! Today is 83 days AF. If I hadnāt had one drink 84 days ago, Iād be 11 months sober on Sunday. It all counts. I think thatās one of the biggest lessons Iāve learned in my journey so far. A lapse or a relapse doesnāt have to signify the end of recovery. Relapse is not inevitable, and itās not āpart of recovery,ā but it can be part of a personās recovery process looking in retrospect. I havenāt ālostā any of the days I spent sober, especially if I wasnāt hungover or preparing to drink when I felt better, like my old old patterns. I look at it as a learning process. Life is about learning, if we take the opportunity to look at it that way, and if we make a mistake we have every chance to say to ourselves that we donāt want THAT, so letās not do THAT again and letās figure out not only how to not do THAT again, but more importantly what we want to do instead. Thatās what Iām learning and will keep learning every day of my life. What kind of life do I want to live? What does that look like and what do I have the control to change, what do I have to learn to cope with thatās out of my control, how can I find the small joys that lift me up, how do I find contentment in this wild world. Iām letting go of the idea that I have to be āhappy.ā Itās an amorphous concept that usually ends up holding me back - if I break it down into what components might lead to a general happiness, it helps me wrap my mind around it. As someone who struggles with chronic pain, itās frequently a question of how I can cope with pain without becoming incapacitated, how can I find ways to distract from pain and how can I recognize and appreciate pain free days. How can I recognize what brings me joy and cultivate those moments throughout each day. How can I appreciate the world I live in most frequently in my own head while pulling myself back out to notice the world around me by practicing grounding techniques. How can I be sure to practice gratitude in a deliberate way everyday so that I donāt lose sight of all the gooooood stuff I have in my life. There are so many ways to practice recovery and wellness. I think the most important thing is to keep trying every day no matter what.
Hm. That was a random Rosa ramble. I guess itās been too long. Being at āhomeā with my parents usually does make me more contemplative than usual, I guess. One last day on my visit with family and we head home tomorrow.
Sending love and strength to you, amigos. 
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Day 420. Clean and sober today. I got really good news last night. Coreyās best friend, the one who found him that night has 3 months sober now! Iām so proud of him and even though it hurts like hell that heās gone, Corey is saving lives. Have a great day everyone, I love you guys!!! 
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Tick-tock, buttercup. Iām getting excited for you!
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You look fantastic Danni and Iām soooo proud of how far youāve come!!! Youāre kicking ass!!!
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Hey all, checking in on day 418. I hope everyone is well.
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Hi all. Checking in on Day 113 from my new city, Budapest!
I arrived safely with no drinking in the airport or on the plane. Loved your message about feeling better after not drinking on your flight @Dazercat and well done for completing your first sober one! And Iām going to follow your lead and adopt a shame free way of explaining that I donāt drink. First social gathering with new colleagues tonight and Iām just going to say I donāt and I feel better when I donāt. No lengthy explanation needed. And if people think Iām weird or boring then thatās on them, not me.
Thanks for the best wishes @Tylerdub @Mno
Iām already absolutely loving being somewhere new. It feels scary and challenging and exciting and invigorating.
Hereās a picture from the sunny streets. I would have had a wine in this picture a few months ago, but my body and mind feels so much better for not.
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Violating HIPPA privacy law is huge! Definitely contact an attorney. Iām not in law but Iāve worked in health insurance all my life and this is not to be taken lightly.
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So proud of you A. And so happy for you. What a lovely simply beautiful pic. You are a blessing.
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Today I went back to the Sober Talk group and read more comments and wrote again. I also read a dozen pages from the book Atomic Habits. I woke up this morning, fed my kids, got them ready for daycare and drove them there. I then drove downtown to a courthouse to try and pay the only vehicular fine Iāve ever received. I came home and emptied the dishwasher and loaded the dryer full of clothes and now Iām getting ready for work. I am feeling very anxious. This is only day 2 of not drinking. The book I am reading insists I try to embody the type of person I want to be. It reminds me a lot of my younger years as a leader in an insurance company. I had no problem being a leader then. So here goes:
- I am the type of person who wants to become a more successful singer.
- I am the type of person who puts his family above all else.
- I am the type of person who writes daily.
- I am the type of person who enjoys working out and eating right.
This is my check in today.
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