Thank you 
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Absolutely totally worth it!! Itās your passion and something you want to become your livelihood so worth every penny I say! How exciting 
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Glad you are here with us, you deserve to live a happy and healthy life. Donāt listen to the bullshit your head tells you. Keep checking in here as much as you need to, we can help you get back on your feet. Weāre stronger together.
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Super exciting 
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Checking in. Gonna be real for a moment.
Every now and then, someone says āRelapse is a part of recoveryā and sometimes it gets stuck in my head (like now). I am thinking, I have been sober for over 3 and a half years, is it time for a relapse? I mean, many people say itās part of the journey, right? Maybe I canāt truly recover until I have a relapse.
Iām going to Vegas next week and will by in large be by myself, I could probably get away with it, if I wanted. I donāt want to though, and I wonāt. But Iāve been in a dark place mentally for a few weeks and having this thought in my head is kind of fucking up my vibe.
Anyhow, Iāve reached out to some sober friends, Iāve played the tape through and meditated on it. Iām pulling out the tool box and using them. Iāll not likely relapse, this time.
I know we want to make people feel better about their actions, but relapse is NOT a part of recovery, itās a part of addiction; big difference.
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I struggle with this statement to be honest. But I lean more towards believing that relapse is not apart of recovery. And the reason why I say this is bcuz when I have been told that relapse IS apart of recovery, I dont find it helpful. To say that substance use is a part of the process of recovery, for me, created a dangerous cycle of me excusing my behavior of using drugs during my recovery. And even tho it is common to relpase, I donāt find it to necessarily be apart of recovery. For me anyway, relapse happens when I am not doing something that helps me to continue on with recovery. If that makes any sense. If im doing what i need to do to stay clean, relapse doesnt occur. Thoughts of relapse are a warning sign for me that something isnt right with my recovery. Its a sign for me to do something so that i dont follow thru on the actual act of relapse. Iām glad ur sharing ur thoughts tho and Iām glad ur working thru these thoughts 
wishing u only the best for ur trip
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Congratulations Carolyn !!
Happy 200 ! 
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Itās silly really. 
But youāre right, itās an excuse!
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@HoofHearted I was in exact same headspace last week (I am coming up on 3yrs). Without the tools, knowledge and some sober time behind me, was I am to use sense and reach out. I really struggled to keep the nosie out of my head - (even playing the tape through), but this community helped me. Relapse/1 drink/5 drinks is not an option. You got this!!
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Itās just remarkable really how our minds can literally twist and turn anything to almost justify our using/drinking. When I think back to some of the reasons or thoughts surrounding why I would relapse, it was silly lol but our minds are powerful. Probably even more powerful than we think!
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Congratulations Dana! 
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I know this has been debated to death.
And youāre right, itās part of the addiction.
Further more.
Premeditated relapse is just choosing to ignore your own strength and submit.
@Butterflymoonwoman
I glad youāre talking about it. Itās important to talk about it.
Thanks for sharing that. Hoof.
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Day 55 AF
3pm Tuesday and Iām in bed. Been pushing myself hard with work, exercising and home duties recently and feeling a little overwhelmed and extremely tired. Being a sole parent to a 17yo with mental health concerns is really tricky and difficult most of the time. Hope everyone is doing ok
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5 months 
Congratulations Callie.
I live it
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Thank you, Cam. Iām not having to deal with any creeps. That happened early in my time here and Iāll nip it in the bud if it happens again. 
Iām speaking of the community as a whole. I know of two people who have left because this happened to them. I donāt want to see anyone else get hurt. Our sobriety is important and this isnāt a dating site.
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You got this too!!
Thanks! Being here helps, knowing Iām not alone helps! Letās get one more day!!
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Thatās a shame. I know that Sassy recently bumped the Reminder on inappropriate posts, personal boundaries and flagging to educate new members and remind old members how to handle this kind of stuff.
If anyone is uncomfortable in DMs all they need to do is add the @moderators tag then block said person.
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I can relate to this alot man. I thought I was working my recovery pretty well when I had the 456 days. I still attended meetings and meditation all that but I still would have those thoughts of relapse and when I went to my uncles idk why but I just didnāt even really try to stop myself. When I got home I carried the relapse on for a little bit and I remember when I went to my first meeting after the relapse I spoke and got my feelings out. And I remember one of the ppl looking at me after and saying yeah well relapse isnāt a part of recovery and it just rubbed me wrong, like the person was better then me or something it felt like he was saying because he hasnāt relapsed and idk thatās just how it felt my ego was probably big at the time. Who knows. Either way, even when we work are recovery I still feel there is a chance of relapsing you just never can say never or know whatās gonna happen idk how to describe this, even after the relapse i still catch myself thinking about relapsing.
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