Day 2. Back at it again! Thanks guys.
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Happy Birthday!
Iām glad that you had/have plans to do a bit of celebrating. I had a similar family situation. My parents care more about how things look on the outside to others. The manipulation and gaslighting sure was something too. One day at a timeā¦.eventually things work their way out or the Universe intervenes and offers redirection.
I hope you make some positive memories on this birthday to cast a shadow on some of the bad memories you have attached to it. All darkness dies in the light.
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Day 18. Teaching 2 classes and then transcribing my Final. I canāt believe Iām actually finishing this training. Iāve had the voices in my head telling me Iām not good enough, I should just give up, etcā¦.Making it through this and recommitting to sobriety has made some definite changes in the way I look at life in general again. Have a great day!
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Checking in clean and serene with 2 years and 4 months ! Last night I went to a meeting and asked if anyone knew how I could get a job in recovery, one of the women told me to apply at their treatment center which is actually one I have been to twice. Also, I started my step 2 
I am loving doing the steps and how good I feel while doing them and digging into them. I met my sponsor a few months ago and she even said I have changed so much for
The better. Also, I have been having a few people commenting on how I have lost weight so I am really happy that people are noticing. I want to go on a walk today so I can get some steps in and some calories burned but I am not wanting to go or feeling as motivatedā¦ I hope some motivation kicks in and I go. Yesterday I had been getting some very negative thoughts and wasnāt feeling so safe so maybe thatās why I am hesitant today to go. I am going to push myself to go anyway after I am done drinking my tea and get the walk out of the way and take an off day tomorrow. Anyway, I got a bunch of healthy food today and I love seeing how healthy the food is. It makes me happy and I got a few things for myself. Have a great day you guys 
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Hi Miranda, welcome! Youāre in the right spot. This is a thread about how your day is going. Iām so sorry youāre going through that, itās difficult (to put it mildly) to try and become sober living with a drinker. You may like this thread too: Are you affected by a loved one who is an addict?
I hope I did that right, never linked a different thread. 
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This is the check in thread and youāre free to check in with anything thatās on your mind Miranda (within the rules that is). Iām sorry your husband is so unsupportive. Obviously he is not where you are in respect to being sober. He doesnāt get it.
So many people donāt. Over here we do though and Iām glad youāre here with us. Please keep sharing your stuff, good and bad. The thread Maxine linked too is a good one. Hang in there. Youāre doing this for yourself.
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No youāre not friend. Youāre fighting to change your life. Itās normal to expect some support from your SO. And it sucks to be obstructed instead. Keep going. Hugs.
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Day 10028
What a day. I threw all the towels in to wash and later the washing machine was making a wierd chiming noise. The drum wasnāt spinning and the door was locked. Luckily I was sure I knew the problem but all the towels were locked in it wet! The drainage filter was plugged. Iām soaking wet. I have wet blankets to wash now and the laundry room floor is still wet but the washer is working. To get the filter all the water in the machine has to drain out 
I sat there slowly draining the water laughing my head off thinking about my tweaking days when I would have taken that entire damn washer apart lololol. So grateful to have my head on straight again and able to work through crap and still have a sense of humor about it.
Now I have to clean up and figure out dinner because I forgot to take anything out. Lol
Hope you all have a fun, sober and clean day 
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Day 33 - Another busy day for me today. Iām in a busy period at the minute. Only three days of it but I can feel myself being drawn back into bad old habits. Not getting out for a walk, rushing into things, mind racing, trying to catch up.
Itās funny, when I sit and think about it I really struggle to put my finger on what I am rushing to catch up to. Or what level of achievement / effort is "enough*. Recently I have realised both are lies. If I go down that route (as I have done) there is no magical point where I get to āenoughā or I catch up. It is a trick my brain is playing on me.
What I have learnt to do is change my mindset. Today is a day I constantly felt ābehindā on what I needed to do this week. My conciousness focused off into the distance. What do I need to do tomorrow and the day after that and the day after that. Itās never ending. So I switched gear and told myself āletās do some things that will help make tomorrow a better day.ā. I prepared my lunch, got everything ready to go for the morning and I am turning in early to try and get some rest, so I am fresher tomorrow.
I may have dropped the ball a bit with my self care but I am determined to pick it back up again.
I hope you all have a great sober day.
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Yes! Even on simple things as well as a racing mind looking at the picture as one day at a time works. Another thing I do is write down all the goals I have and break them up for different days. That way I donāt get overwhelmed trying to do too much on one day or worrying about if I will get them all done. Instead I have a neat chart of what needs to be done and when.
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I love this idea @SassyBoomer Iām definitely going to steal it. It may help quieten my mind given everything that is going on at the moment!
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The nice thing is you can guesstimate how long each chore will take and break them down in a way that you can still figure out to factor in relaxation time each day. Real relaxation because you wonāt be mentally stressing over it all. Iām glad I could help 
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Iām a āWalking Disasterā, but Iām holding steady!
Just put down deposit for a moving company, bought a 10 year old used car for my daughter, signed papers to put the house up for sale and took a shit load of stuff to the thrift store. Iām totally freaking out!!!
However, Iām sober and did some meditation. I walked 3-miles and I called a friend.
Still waiting for the āofficial job offerā, but I know it is coming. Ugh! Lord help meā¦Hmmfffā¦ So, tired.
Going to watch TV. I need to āgo awayā and let go of my anxieties. My Golden Retriever is circling me and is confused as to why itās owner is a mess.
Iām so grateful for this community-
On the turntableā¦
āBrazilian Beats Brooklynā
Various Artists
Mr. Bongo Records
2006
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Checking in
Day 128
Jusr checking in now, a little late. I have had a busy day so far. I worked out this morning and have stuck to my healthy eating for the past 3 days. I had a 3 hour zoom mtg for my job (team mtg), and now just finished a nice walk thru the huge park behind where I live. I seriously got some sun 
I feel alittle burnt 
but that vitamin D tho feels wonderful! I am home now and am relaxing and getting caught up on TS and other stuff I have to do. My husband is working today thank God. He has work at a diff construction site until the previous one opens up again. That was a long while with him not working due to this engineering issue of that building. But thankful another option has opened up for now. Recovery wise things are good. I really had some good time to connect to God this morning (especially since I have been slacking on my morning routine for a bit). Very grateful to be clean. I love my life today and the connection to God and others that I have today. And the relationship i have with myself. I still fight myself with things but that inner fight has slowed down quite abit and that self love is slowly coming back bcuz Iām putting in the work. Very blessed and very grateful 
Hope everyone is having an addiction free day today!
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Hi Dana!
So nice to hear from you today. Great post and Iām happy you are doing well. You are such a light!
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Awe thank you!!! Thats very sweet! How are YOU doing?
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Great to hear your self lovin is coming back Dana 
how great is the sunshine!? Itās middle of winter here and Iām missing that warm sun so bad. It makes such a huge difference to be able to stroll through nature on a nice day. Keep on keeping on, you are doing so great
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Iām a mess, but God is good and Iām grateful
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So so happy to see you post Michael Iām in the process of packing and moving too! Itās not easy, but also feels kind of therapeutic to get rid of some old things and start fresh.
Well done on keeping on your sober path, Iām proud of you!
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85 days
Still in a bit of a work funk. I think all the busy times packing and not being able to relax properly when Iām not at work lately, is making it hard to keep pushing on with a good attitude at work.
When you have nice moments to recharge outside of work, you are refreshed and ready to go at work. Iām not having those moments. But itās temporary. We will be all moved soon. Iām not used to change but oh boy do I need it.
Iām feeling calm in my sobriety at the moment. Iāve had to decline some substance heavy invitations. But also, feeling better about upcoming dinners Iāve been invited to. I feel a bit better about just being present as myself, enjoying food, and not having to drink to feel accepted. Iāll still be there, Iām not any more if Iām drinking. If anything, Iām a lot less of myself when Iām drinking. And if Iām not enjoying myself, Iāll just leave.
Itās a relief to get to this point. And I canāt wait to keep growing confident in myself.
Have a great day everyone
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