Congrats on 90 days !! That is so awesome 
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CJ: Iām so proud of you! 
High five and Hugs my friend! 
Celebrate today, Soberly! 
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That is fantastic!! Congratulations on your 90!!!
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Way to go!!! 90 days is HUGE! 
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5 days sober. 100% sober and about 2 months since I kicked the cigarettes.
I do feel good but also really tired as Iāve worked over every day to keep me out of the pub and get that all important 1st sober week under my belt. Next week Iām supposed to be off all week but Iām working the 1st 4 days then some ME days, gardening, drawing, walking, reading , cooking anything but drinking. Hope you all are doing mighty fine this evening.
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Congrats on 5 days keep pushing!
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Yay! Congratulations on 5 days! Odaat u got this 
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Congratulations on your 90 days of freedom CJ
Youāre killing it.
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Woot woot woot
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@maxwell Congratulations on your 3 days 
so proud you came straight back, I wasnt strong enough when i relapsed it lasted 2 years so I am extremely proud to see you have this strength and to be here fighting with all you have 
@Miranda Hi Miranda, the fact is your here and you havent totally given up, you have not done any real damage yet you still have a chance to decide to live the sober good life.
Can you get to meetings? Iv started to go in the evening itās my first time properly going and it really has been so good for me.
I get really lonely at night time and itās the best part of the day for me to go.
Iām not sure and cant speak for you but maybe you feeling alone being sober at the evenings when your husband drinks and this would be a good idea to go to a meeting then. Where there are people who can help face to face.
You can do this, I know you can you know you can.
In glad your still here and if this is your day1 congratulations to you, because some people never make it back. This disease kills.
Iām just glad your here that takes strength and I admire you for coming straight back to the journey before any damage can be done.
@anon53116147 huge congratulations on 60 days that is amazing so super proud of you.
@RosaCanDo congratulations on 10+months so glad you share your strength and your here.
@SassyRocks 5+ years is amazing!! Iām very gratefull when I joined here you were one of the onee who have been solid and so welcoming and good advice to others.
@Bluekoolaid so glad to see you settling in and so happy to hear your feeling good about all the changes. I think back to a few months ago and look how far you have came!! I am so proud or you.
@Cjp 90 days thatās brilliant Iām so proud to see this
@Leveller congratulations on your 5 days
People have a party right across from me can see them smoking, drinking socialising and for a second I felt like I was missing out.
Sitting here reading your guys posts, I know Iām not alone, I dont need to be ar a party or drinking or smoking because in on a waiver journey and discovering so much spiritually about myself and the world so instead I say a small prayer for them to have a safe happy party and hope that no one will suffer with addiction like I have.
I am so happy to be part of this community, Iām so happy we all share our lives together here. I dont need more, I am happy with how my life is.
I guess accepting and surrendering that my life cant have alcohol the actuall acceptance part means I can live peacefully with the decision that I wont drink again. I am accepting this because as soon as you do it becomes a hell of alot easier, this was my experience from when I had 8 yes sober. Then something @Its_me_Stella mentioned
I couldnāt do 8 years again, not by myself especially as I dont know how I even did it then.
So I have been going to meetings and really getting to know myself deeply and spiritually and build my relationship back with God.
Thank you all today I am 303 days and itās now I feel I need to be really putting in the work fo this work, but for me to be at peace with I am a non drinker, so I can live properly and a peace with who I am.
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Thank you for your words . It means so much to take time to reach out . Iām trying hard to think positive and keep moving forward with these basic things that keep me sober . I can very much relate to the things you share and post and with your spiritual journey . I hope you have a good rest of your day or night 
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Helpful advice. I would add as well that sometimes there are other factors happening behind the scenes. We work hard to keep the forum running smoothly and to keep this a safe space. Moderators do not read all the threads, we rely on members to bring any inappropriate or posts that break the rules to our attention. That is the responsibility/social contract of all the members on this site and much appreciated.
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Congratulations 
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Checking in
Day 166
So I was really thrown off by a comment a cashier made to me today. I went to the $ store after work for some beverages for me and hubby. There was a man there who definitely looked a little rough, sweating profusely (like thatās even an understatement), he was obviously on drugs (I could tell from his eyes and his movements), but he also was looking for a drink. He grabbed a pop and headed to the cashier. I followed shortly behind. He asked me if I could maybe pay for his pop. Itās +31 here and itās hot so I said, āSure, no problemā. We go the cashier, he says thank u and he leaves. I pay for all our drinks and the cashier tells me that this man got someone else to buy him a lighter earlier too. And she looks up at me as if to say āWhy did u buy that pop for him? You kind of got playedā.
I was really thrown off by this honestly. I wouldāve never bought him a lighter bcuz I would never want to help someone to act out in their addiction. But itās +31 out and wether he is an addict or not, itās hot out and everyone needs something to drink (especially those who are out on the streets in this heat all day). He couldve easily stolen the drink but he asked me to buy it for him. I told her that it was literally $1 and that I could afford it. That itās not my place to judge another. We all need something to drink in this weather. She sort of nodded with her head down and then wished me a good evening. I walked home and prepared supper and really thought about what happened today. I donāt regret my decision at all to help this man. I hope she took something away from this today.
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It was a very kind gesture, buying him a drink. We all could use a little kindness and compassion at times.
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I hope more people would act as you did.
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Dana, you helped someone, period. Thatās what we all should be doing.
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You did the right thing Dana. Not just with buying the drink for the man but also with sharing with the cashier why you did that. She may well have no idea why consideration for that man matters in that way.
Prejudice runs deep, and often subconsciously, in webs, channels, through our society. Our social and experiential lives are charged with currents of prejudice and we have to try to be aware of them, to defuse them.
Prejudice is learned, subconsciously. We learn prejudice when weāre young, not directly - or at least, seldom directly - but instead indirectly, by observing the words and actions people use with different groups of people.
Some groups get treated respectfully. As children, we notice who gets respect, and we mimic that.
Some groups get treated dismissively (as in, āwe have to tolerate them as an unavoidable group in our world, but thatās about it; we do not initiate contact with them, do anything for them, spend time with themā). People lost in addiction usually fall into this group, and homeless people do too.
What you did today was at one level a simple act of kindness. But at a deeper level it was a revolutionary act of caring and respect. Your act was an anti-prejudice act. Your act showed that man deserved to be seen, heard, and supported, in ways that were helpful.
The cashier isnāt showing prejudice out of malice; itās not her fault. She is just repeating what sheās learned from the (frankly callous and dismissive) patterns of prejudice that are absorbed from a very young age.
What you did today may have opened her eyes and got her thinking. I wouldnāt be surprised if she looks at people in a new way after this.
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You did the right thing and a kind thing!! We need more people like you who act with their heart and not overthink.
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