Checking in daily to maintain focus #49

This is a really brilliant list. It should be pinned on the top of a thread. :wink: :mechanical_arm:

Hm, sounds like an annoying bowl disorder. I thought gastritis is gone? :pensive:

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Gastritis is gone, maybe the burger had a bad quality :pensive: Or I’m not used to the fat any more.

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Not trying to start an argument here, but letting someone know how their words were received is not driving someone off the forum.

Ok. And so surely taking “I think what you said is x” to mean “leave the forum” is also emotions, is it not?

I do understand that this particular occasion is leading you to think about being aware of and taking responsibility for your emotions in general, which I do agree with.

My sober Saturday is winding down. Best wishes to all starting theirs.

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Hope you’re good Karen. And sober.

You’re still “trying” to quit drinking. You haven’t actually truly quit yet. What’s your longest sober streak so far since you came here? Do I remember rightly that after a week, 10 days maybe, you physically started to feel better? Your headaches were clearing? That totally fits how detoxing and getting over withdrawals should work. The fact that your symptoms are relieved by drinking now, just shows you’re not through the withdrawals yet.

As to feeling better without alcohol: both physically and mentally, becoming sober gives us the possibility to work on ourselves. We can work on feeling better once we’re truly sober. Quitting in itself won’t make us feel better (except for the absence of hangovers and all that). After becoming sober the real work begins. The work of feeling better.

You can do this. First step is to flip the switch in your head, to own your sobriety, to stop thinking alcohol will help you with anything in your life. Because it doesn’t. To take alcohol totally out of the equation that is your life. Success. Hugs.

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I have thought about it but was unsure if it would be well recieved.
Edit: Then I found this amazing thread!

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Dana, its 08.33 in England, i woke up during the night read your post and ive thought about u all night, i cant begin to imagine what you went through as ive never been through anything like what u did but what i get from what youve shared is that you were meant to read and look at everything that you did yesterday…it must have been terribly painful for you but the pain has to come out so to me you do what you need to do to cry, scream into a pillow because this is you dealing with all that happened through fully sober eyes and a sober heart, its ok to not feel ok sometimes but my gosh from where you started to where you are now is utterly amazing to me, please know that not only have you changed your own life but youve also changed lives on here with your story, your openness, compassion and the help you give to others daily, mine included. Thank you once again my friend :heart:

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188, checking in.

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2:22am
Day 883 clean and sober. Wide awake… I did absolutely nothing except eat and nap yesterday on my day off and I’m good with that. Definitely needed the rest and the mind numbing YouTube videos for a bit. I feel like I’m going to need to make some major changes at work or I’m going to be so burnt out. I will be talking to my boss this week.

Today is my Monday and I hope everyone has a great day today, love you guys! :sunglasses::metal:t2:

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Day 75

Feeling accomplished today as ive just completed my Christmas shopping for my daughter :relaxed: reflecting on a strange day yesterday at work as my colleagues kept talking about drinking and felt i didnt wana join in the convo, kinda just kept putting my head down feeling icky, hate the “missing out/abnormal that i cant be a normie” feeling that i now dont drink and im not ready to do the drinking/socialising thing sober but i know its the best thing i can possibly do for my life so i will stand firm, just felt uncomfortable and irritated with the convos

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Hello all,

Checking in on Day 1,569.

God Bless!

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My longest recent time was 12 days. The headaches did get better around day 10. But the depression just completely overwhelmed me on day 12. Back in January I got a bit over 2 weeks, but I was recovering from major surgery and on pain meds for some of that.

I feel like such a failure. Everything feels hopeless right now. And overwhelming.

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@Butterflymoonwoman
I’m sorry to read about your distress. :confused:

I think, that your post couldn’t be shorter, because there was so much going on in your day and head.

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You’re not a failure. It’s a long hard battle with many ups and maybe even more downs. I’m not having the best of times atm. I do know using any substance is not going to help with anything though. Never again. And the rest I’m working on. One day more successfully than the other but nothing will make me use.

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You are not a failure. You do your best what you can at the moment. You might be lacking some tools and help.to get you through the days, just today. Someone mentioned meds to help you easen the headaches.
I my recovery so far I have tried different types of programs. What I found in all of them was the feeling of connection, not being alone with my feelings or thoughts. I went to a meeting and on my way home I felt better, not healed but less alone.
Someone posted a great video on addiction yesterday here, maybe it’s worth a look at it for you.

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Hey all, checking in on day 881. I hope everybody has a good one!

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Day 4 here, waking up this Saturday morning without a hangover. Getting ready to brew some coffee and listen to the rain. I love a rainy day, perfect time to spend the day cooking and cleaning. Have a great day all :sunny:

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Why are outdoor showers a thing? :thinking:

I don’t like the thought showing me as god made me to the nature. :smile:

Someday this feeling disappears. Well, it did for me. When becoming sober the last time I often felt this sadness and I felt weird. Now not any more. Others can drink and get wasted if they want to. I can’t. And that’s okay. I finally accepted this fact about me.
Hugs :hugs:

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Like i accept it but it doesnt feel good yet :relieved:

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