This is a slippery slope. Even if alcohol isn’t your DOC, it still isn’t possible to control your behaviors while you’re drinking it no matter who you are. Especially going into a place where your DOC is, and will be used in front of you…I can’t foresee this ending well. You said it yourself
That sounds like you knew completely that you were taking a risk.
There was a point in my life where opiates became a much bigger problem than alcohol for me. As much as I desperately wanted to stop doing them, it was impossible while I was still drinking. The only reason I finally did was because the sources dried up.
To me, an addict is an addict is an addict. No matter your DOC. Your ‘voice’ will find a way to get what it wants however it can. Don’t listen to it.
Last Sunday, the day before my 10-month milestone, I had a huge impulse to gamble, it really didn’t think it’s possible to have milder urges early in recovery and such a big one at that point (for me 10 months have been so far my longest sobriety period, the others lasted less than a month). I immediately called a friend and we met, because I was honestly losing it. I even started crying in the tube because I felt hopeless. The good thing is that I’ve managed to overpower this urge and it’s 1:0 for me.
Congratulations on ur upcoming 3 weeks free from ur DOC! And im very proud of u for not involving urself with others that were doing ur DOC. Thats not easy to do.
Alcohol was never an issue for me. Drugs (my most recent DOC was crack cocaine) have always been the issue. That being said, it wouldnt have surprised me if alcohol became a problem. I know that i have an obsession of the mind, meaning i am an addict thru and thru. Alcohol is a drug like any other and so in order for me to truly be clean from all mind altering substances, i need to be free from drugs AND alcohol. Its just too easy to switch addictions. I have that sort of personality. And thats why I avoid it too. Not worth the risk.
If you want to quit drinking too, just put the same effort that ur putting into quitting ur DOC, towards alcohol too. Its actually much easier to just be free from all substances, than to pick and choose. For myself, I know that as soon as i put ANY substance into my body, i release my addiction all over again, no matter to what substance.
Alcohol was my doc and when I hurt my back I had a hard time getting off opiates luckily that didn’t last long because I did like the feeling more than alcohol. Never did any other drugs but I’m sure if I did I would be hooked fast. Addictive brain so nothing mind altering for me. Good luck to you and hoping you figure it out and not trade one addiction for another.
You’re either going to be dedicated enough to sobriety to not go or you won’t. I’ll tell ya what will happen if you keep going. You will absolutely relapse.
You have to make the decision as to what is more important, your sobriety or the club. Choose wisely
Thank you so much @Alisa@Mno@JazzyS…
I am better now. Forced my body to the limit with the moving work, yea it was hard but yea so it is not that bad isn’t it. Damn strong anyway.
These thoughts.
I am okay now. Relaxing, will have dinner soon.
Taking care of my bones and muscles lol.
Feeling better, am sober!
There’s a saying. That if you keep hanging out in the barbershop, eventually you’re gonna walk out with a fuckin haircut. If you want sobriety, hang out with people who also want it. It’s pretty simple.
Sometimes it takes us a while to realize it, but the concept of sobriety isn’t rocket science. The hard part is doing what it takes to maintain it.
Thanks yall for the responses Okay you guys are right, I need to seriously prioritize my sobriety, regardless of the FOMO I get. I’m going to really try to be better. I gotta admit this to my sponsor as well, which really sucks but I need to practice honesty.
Do you guys have any advice for fighting the FOMO? I feel like I need a different way to think about FOMO to successfully fight the feeling
You’re right you’re right, I gotta train my brain to prioritize sobriety, just like how it used to prioritize my DOC over everything. It’s tough, but I’ll learn this. Next time, I’ll post a thread asking yall if I should go out, which might be a healthy way to stop myself
What do u think ur missing out on? And is it really worth the risk to jeopardize ur sobriety?
If u want social interaction, maybe meeting up with some friends in a clean and sober setting is a good start. Or finding new hobbies to occupy ur time.
In all reality what ur missing out on is physical and emotional distress, financial debt, damage done to relationships etc etc. The list goes on n on. Its just not worth it
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I understand the FOMO.
It’s the point of FOMO that you truly become in the danger zone. You are off to a great start when you chose not to miss out cause your not missing out on the dark fun.
Dark fun is when your mind shuts down and even bad things are funny.
Healing your body will come in time. You won’t FOMO the bad stuff
And then when your healthy you will realize your FOMO will be about good stuff
There will be a time when you won’t miss out on anything and your remember good stuff
Sorry man, I think you think you’re smarter than those that came before you.
You show an arrogance to your success in sobriety.
I wish you all the best, and hope you are successful, but believe you just like playing with fire until you relapse.
Your either in to abstain and remove yourself from these scenarios or you aren’t. You aren’t going to long term succeed with the trajectory you keep putting yourself on.
Apologies everyone for the bluntness, I’m just calling it as I see it.
Thanks homies, I really appreciate you guys for not abandoning me over my stupid mistakes, so many people in the past abandoned me due to my addiction And @Steve14 honestly you’re 100% right, nothing good came out of last night. I regret it fully. I wish I just stayed home and worked out and saw my sponsor and whatnot. I’ll keep this in mind for next time I get that FOMO.
Also, I need to be honest about something, I also bought some random dude’s sketchy ass ecstasy pill last night and took it that night during my drunkenness. It was pretty scary to be honest, I could’ve ended up dead. I really regret last night, NOTHING good came out of it
I PROMISE you guys I’m going to be better than this. I’ve proven to myself time and time again that nothing good comes out of partying
You show an arrogance to your success in sobriety.
Not sure that I understand the arrogance part. I wanna correct this, what’s making me seem arrogant exactly?
Your either in to abstain and remove yourself from these scenarios or you aren’t. You aren’t going to long term succeed with the trajectory you keep putting yourself on.
Apologies everyone for the bluntness, I’m just calling it as I see it.
I agree, I promise you I’m going to be better than this. I’m sorry homie, I’m trying to do this sobriety thing but it’s so much to navigate and change in the way I think
Okay you guys are right, I need to seriously prioritize my sobriety, regardless of the FOMO I get. I’m going to really try to be better. I gotta admit this to my sponsor as well, which really sucks but I need to practice honesty.
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