It’s a lie, the FOMO. The people at the bar are there to abuse substances, not be friends. It’s superficial, the friendship part.
This is life or death for us. You’re not missing anything. Sober people are everywhere, if you look for them. You deserve a healthy life with healthy people. I think you do, but do you think so? Please don’t risk your life.
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Don’t worry about abandonment issues. Go make new friends to keep sober. Stop putting
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Pills in you
Next thing you know some random dude is gonna have you in his autopsy table.
Stay connected here. If you get invited to this kinds of parties anymore just do your best and say pass. Get ON THIS APP and get plugged in.
Just do your best for you. And tell us how the day is going to be better
The arrogance is that you believe you can go out to these places and abstain. That you know better than many many came before you.
You are either focused on sobriety or not. I totally understand that people relapse, trust me, I have lots, but when I am working on sobriety I don’t intentionally put myself in situations to fail…
But hey, your monkey, your circus my friend.
See… if you’re drunk enough to take ecstasy from a source you don’t know well, I’d suggest that alcohol might end up being an issue for you in life. It’s classic risk seeking behaviour.
One DOC can easily replace another, especially if you don’t address the issues that are causing the addiction in the first place. Worse, they can compound each other.
I agree with you, I don’t know better than veteran members here. You’re right, maybe I do have some arrogance or at least I don’t listen to people enough sometimes 
I swear on it, this is stopping now: That's it, I'm declaring right now that I am not going to party, no matter the FOMO
Thank you Jasmine. I appreciate your support. 
I’ve got my path of relapses as well.
This time around I’ve learnt something new,you either want to stay sober or you don’t.
There’s no golden middle way here. You can’t have both,you can’t be just a little sober. It’s all or nothing.
That’s a start.
That’s easy to say.
But remember, many of us have started right where you are
So very true! I quit and drank again many times until I got serious and put sobriety above everything else. Nothing changes if nothing changes!
That’s the point I hope the young fella gets…
Alright, I understand this now. I can’t keep flip flopping between sobriety and the party scene. I’m choosing sobriety from now on.
Right now, I’m gonna consider myself day #1 again. I need to revise what I’ve learned and do better. I don’t deserve to say that I’m day #19 sober. I feel like such a failure today 
But watch me as I rack up more truly sober days. I’m sick of partying.
Hey everyone, this is a mid day check in on my day 99.
Funny enough I rarely ever get sick and today I feel just like I did on day 1 on Jan 6. Aches, pains, just crap and it’s making me a tad short so apologies if I come across that way.
Not the way I wished to cross the threshold of double into triple digits, but what can you do?
Be well everyone, and remember failing to plan is planning to fail. Don’t go into situations without your plan.
I get it. Hoping you can get some rest and feel better quickly! 
Checking in again at day 6.5.
Had my lip piercings upgraded! They look rad. They represent fire and earth, my astrological signs.
And I like triangles, as a mathematician 
Have a good evening all 
It was a very good idea, Sophia! I think I might like the Swedish ones better, though I would eat either 
. Thanks for your stories each day- I look forward to reading them! You’re a great storyteller.
@iamsophie great to see you checking in friend. WOW – huge congrats on your 10+ months. The urges can come out of no where even later on in sobriety (not sure what triggers them). I am grateful that you were able to reach out to a friend and work out the urge in a healthy manner. Stay strong Sophie 
@john_connor1337 Not a failure my friend. It is hard navigating through the sober journey and learning about yourself and collecting the tools, the strength it takes to help yourself stack up the days and avoid triggers, risky scenes and risky people. Please be safe. Glad to see you working so hard on your journey and reaching out for advice and help. We can not do this journey solo. Like others have said, FOMO is lie – when you think about it – you really are not missing anything. You are gaining by abstaining. Keep your head up my friend and keep pushing forward
@chevy55 oh man I’m sorry that you are feeling ill Nick- hope you rest up and get better soon. No matter how you bring in the triple digits – you will be brining it in strong cause you have put in the effort and the work. Be proud!
@lile01 Oh I love em and love the triangle too 
Hope you are starting to feel better
Just another stepping stone on my trip of sobriety friend. Like my birthday, nothing I will get too wrapped up in.
But I appreciate you Jasmine, and all the support you give with never a hint of arrogance. You represent much of the best of us on this journey.
Yeah they do. 
Checking in day 103 AF 
Day 4
Woke up today and the grief of losing my fiance is hitting me extra hard. Had to curl into a ball and cry for a while, funny how grief hits you out of nowhere on the most random days.
Tried to turn my day around a bit by stepping outside for a couple minites to get some fresh air, the weather is perfect today which is a nice change after winter.
Proud of myself for being on day 4 after drinking every day for like 2 months.
Nervous for my brother to come home from being out of town, because hanging out with him makes me feel envouraged to drink and that was part of the reason i kept drinking every day. Hoping i cam stay strong and stick with it when be comes home.
Going to work soon
