Checking in daily to maintain focus #75


@sobernow Hold on David. This first week is so rough, on the body, the mind, the heart. Be nice to yourself. This is hard work :people_hugging:
@Mno You are not stupid for being dependent on a professional. We all are. Some professional takes away my trash, a professional delivers my mail, another one takes care of my teeth. You get the picture. We all are interdependent.
Love the picture. I think I once spend a very nice summer afternoon there with a friend of mine when we were staying in Amsterdam.
@james83 Night out with friends and games sounds good. Remember to have a fallback plan in case you do feel triggered.

471 sugar
335 UPF
209 gluten/dairy

Slept very well despite the calls my partner got cause he was on call last night. Early up, great morning meeting. The sun is up and shining. My daughter has now her third day of an ongoing migraine. I hope this spell breaks soon for her.
I am going to work on my gamejam submission about ageing. A short walk and yoga in the afternoon.

Todayā€™s picture is a stop on our wonderful rail trail ā€œNordbahntrasseā€. It used to be a railway line and has been converted to a path designed for pedestrian, bicycle, skating traffic. Itā€™s 22km long and runs through most of the city. If you want more pictures.

Peace and love always :lotus:

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Day 30+

Feeling better. Iā€™m two different kinds of sober today. Iā€™m alcohol free sober but also mentally sober. No brain fog today that I can tell. My mind feelsā€¦ Solid?
Recovery is going well. Finished my work and Iā€™m free for the rest of the day. Itā€™s cloudy today, everythingā€™s kind of a browinsh grayish color. I wish the birds would come back. I miss them so much. I can just get lost in their little songs. I hear nothing but magpies now. I miss the spring so much it breaks my heart. I canā€™t wait for it to come back too. Just think of all the cherry blossoms and the bees and sunshine. Fluffy clouds and a different kind of silence, a happy one. One more week of this and Iā€™ll be able to leave the house again. I havenā€™t left the house since last Wednesday. I wish I could go for a walk. I miss my climbing gym. I miss my climbing friends. I miss being active. Iā€™ve become a proper couch potato.
After checking in here Iā€™m going to clean a little, dishes, laundry, that sort of thing. Iā€™ve also rediscovered R.C. Sproul. He has an old theology course. Fascinating stuff.
Later Iā€™ll look around ST for threads where you guys share your nature pictures. I think I saw one the other day but canā€™t remember what it was.
ODAATƗ100^1000 is how I feel, lolz

Have a great day everyone and if you see any birds that arenā€™t magpies, please tell em I said howdy.

Note: I have an archenemy, a magpie, who swoops down at my head every year around this time. Well, I canā€™t be sure if itā€™s the same magpie but itā€™s not like I can see it, they come at you from behind. Last time I had to get a tetanus shot. We donā€™t get along.

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Times are tough and I have lots to work on but Iā€™ll get through somehow. If I stay sober and keep trudging along Iā€™ll reach a better place in life eventuallyšŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø

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Checking in on day 71
I havenā€™t slept well and I REALLY donā€™t want to go work my 10 hr shift today. But Iā€™m hiking up the big girls pants and off I go . Have a great day and stay safe and sober everyone.

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Hey all, checking in on day 1727. I hope everybody has a good one!

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Thank you Jasmine!

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Thanks. Hopefully this week is much better

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Day 1,728 clean and sober today. Have an amazing day everyone, love you guys! :sunglasses::metal:t2:

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@Bearos sorry that you are feeling judged. I know the early days/ months of sobriety were so hard with food and sugar as it was my go to so that I wouldnā€™t give in. Donā€™t be so hard on yourself. We can find our way back to healthier eating habits and some movement. You should be super proud of your sober days. You can join us in the March Workout Challenge šŸ‹šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø to get some activity going :hugs:
@Soli check out Wild animals we adore and Post your most inspiring photos of nature #5 threads.
@mno hope therapy goes well. Not stupid to see someone who can / is helping you get better. We can not do this sober journey alone and we canā€™t heal from some of our traumas alone either. Greatful you have a safe space and someone you can connect with that helps you :people_hugging:
@sobernow congratulations on your 1 week :confetti_ball::tada:. Hope you start feeling better soon
@aMaverickSoul wish I could help with the pain. I have heard that acupressure helps for some. It did not do much for mine. Glad you found the thread. Lots of cool threads here to help with distractions. I do find this helps keep my mind off of the pain and also my addictions. Just keep pushing forwardā€¦I hope you have a wonderful day today

Checking in on Friday morning
Busy day aheadā€¦gonna get my day started. Wishing everyone a wonderful addiction free dayā€¦ sending you all so much love :heart::heart:

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Day 41
Restful sleep, easy to wake up, feeling calm
No to any alcohol today. ODAAT
-Solar

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This scares me too. I have cut out the social media, so Iā€™m not following the drip, drip, drip of bad news. But I am scared about my job and the state of the country.

I really get this. Therapy and recovery are incredibly valuable, but there is more to life. I understand mine is a life-long addiction, but my addiction is not my life.

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Itā€™s the same magpie.

Glad things are going well and that the brain fog has cleared. Have a great day. :grinning:

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So sorry to hear all the shit youā€™re going trough. I can only encourage you to stay strong. I know you can do this! I know all your solutions for all of this will eventually work out. Stay strong!, one day at a time. I pray for you.

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Waking up to three weeks sober. Iā€™m so glad to be here: on the planet and on TS. Not so glad to be in the US, but thatā€™s a common feeling these days.
I was up early. I tried to go back to sleep for an hour, but my mind was not having it, so Iā€™m on to coffee, baseball trivia on my phone, and checking in here. Later, I will do some reading for work and pleasure (most of my reading fits both categories) and maybe go out to lunch at a BBQ joint where the alcohol selections are so disgusting that drinking there never crosses my mind.
Otherwise, Iā€™m going to read more threads here. Iā€™m going to meditate to express gratitude for the sober time I have and what I have gained, but also to keep my mind vigilant whenever my alcoholic brain tries its sneaky shit.
TGIF. Wishing everyone a super sober Friday.

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402 days AF
13 days no unnecessary trigger shopping

Thanks for your messages @Mno @tailee17 @CR84 @JazzyS

I am alive.
Had some hope, but now I feel very lost again.
My life feels like a film.
I donā€™t feel ā€œbelongingā€.
I feel shame. And pressure.

I created some plan and way to loose weight. But feel so blah. Donā€™t even know what to eat at weekend and donā€™t have motivation to cook. And I want to be alone! Finally for some weeks.

But I wonā€™t.
Next week I have to travel for business and be in lot of social interaction. Next saturday I am already planned for cinema and dinner with niece and mum. I am planned. As I was asked when niece was around. Could I say no?

Ah. Guys.
Guys, guys.

Letā€™s go :smirk:

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Checking in with 11 months sober. :smiley:
Have a good day everyone!

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Day 427 AF

I was feeling a bit rundown today so used a sick day to begin my two week vacation. As Iā€™m doing so, I laid there musing where we are in our current climate and where we are headed.
This is what Iā€™ve concluded perhaps for your reading pleasure;

The Well-Dressed Ape: The Lie of Human Progress

We like to think weā€™ve evolved. That weā€™ve left behind the tribalism, violence, and greed of our ancestors. That weā€™re enlightened beings, moving toward a future of reason and progress.

But look closer. Whatā€™s really changed?

We donā€™t fight with clubs anymoreā€”we fight with economics, technology, and war machines. We donā€™t wear animal skinsā€”we wear designer suits. We donā€™t live in cavesā€”we live in concrete towers. But the core of who we are? The same.
ā€¢ We still hoard resources while others starve.
ā€¢ We still go to war over land, power, and control.
ā€¢ We still fear equality more than we fear suffering.

Our governments, our systems, our leadersā€”theyā€™re just the modern-day kings and warlords, wrapped in democracy and capitalism. Weā€™re told the system works, but only if you play along. Chase success. Fight for scraps. Believe in the illusion that one day, you might be on top.

We arenā€™t advancing. Weā€™re just running the same cycle in fancier clothes.

So where are we heading? Nowhere new. More division, more conflict, more distractions to keep the masses fighting while the powerful take everything.

We could be in a golden age of discovery, AI-driven solutions, and global cooperation. Instead, weā€™re still throwing spears, just with better aim.

Until we see the truthā€”that human nature, not technology, is what keeps us trappedā€”weā€™ll never break free.

We are just well-dressed apes, still clinging to the jungle we pretend weā€™ve left behind.

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I currently got tramadol to get through it. In 2 weeks I will be reassessed but itā€™s most likely just I made a wrong move and my muscles and bones were like ā€œNOPE!ā€ so imma just rest and try to move when the pain is low.

I took 1 energy drink for comfort, which I know is bad but I had to travel for an hour before and after the assessment so I felt it was semi-okay as long as I keep the maximum at one can a week. Not as an excuse to take one anyway cuz I wanna keep to zero but 1 being the max if I feel the absolute need.

Checking in because despite the pain and energy drink I did manage to get some chores done and I want to actively acknowledge the good things too.

I was able to
ā€¢ do the dishes
ā€¢ do laundry
ā€¢ go to the doctor
ā€¢ get my bike back home
ā€¢ get pokemon bed sheets to heal my inner child
ā€¢ get proper lunch
ā€¢ get my medicine sorted

Now itā€™s time to enjoy the sun in an entirely clear sky

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Indeed. The teleological myth of human progress, that change is necessarily progressive. Lots of strong criticism of that. I liked reading your post. Iā€™ve been reading/teaching selections from Marx and Engels and Althusser recently, and I think this resonates with what Althusser says about ideology and what Foucault says about power and social control. Sorry if Iā€™m geeking out.

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Appreciate the insight! Iā€™ll admit, Iā€™m not familiar with Althusser or Foucaultā€™s takes, but it sounds like they hit on the same ideaā€”how deeply trapped we are in the systems we create. My reasoning for writing was simple: I donā€™t see a way out. Weā€™re stuck in cycles driven by our own limitations, and I fear we lack the depth or enlightenment to truly evolve past them. If they saw a real path forward, Iā€™d be interested to hear itā€”because right now, Iā€™m not seeing one.

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