Definitely take some time for you, it is so important. Also feel ya on the cold and snow lol
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Yeah dudeā¦ depending on your dynamics, definitely probably not the right words to use, just my opinion. Nurses are a different breed and what they go through to get thereā¦.. yeah that comment would probably rub a few the wrong way.
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Thank you @Lisa07 , I appreciate you on this forum also and itās valuable knowing another special needs mom!
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Hi Melanie
I understand your point about being honest with yourself, and looking back, I admit that I didnāt need to apologize to the community. It was just an emotional reaction.
Asking for help is an integral part of the process, and thatās what I did at the time, with complete clarity.
As for support, I think everyone here contributes what they can, based on their own frame of reference, experience, and sensitivity.
We donāt all have to listen or support others in the same way. Itās also up to each person to discern what they are able to offer and what belongs to them.
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Checking in all good 
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Thank you @Butterflymoonwoman @JazzyS @Mno @BookDragon @tailee17 @CR84 @Dilettante @JasonFisher ! I appreciate it!
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DAY 1
A craving always forces me to face up to my responsibility. The choice is simple: drink or donāt drink.
Iām convinced that abstinence has become vital for me. Alcohol feeds psychological issues that Iām aware of and no longer want to deal with.
Quitting drinking isnāt a permanent transition to a āsafeā state. It is a decision that must be renewed with courage and then maintained over time. Perseverance and vigilance are essential, because I know that I will remain vulnerable.
My triggers are often emotional. Today, I choose to deal with them consciously, without running away or dramatizing.
Have a good sober day, everyone! 
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My working weekend was relatively quiet. Last night I was in bed before 9 and did sleep till my alarm just now. Needed it. Now another work day ahead. Thatās OK. One day at a time. My mind, body and soul are OK too, even when meeting these folks from high school for dinner Saturday did bring up a lot of memories from my childhood and adolescence. Not all good, but not all bad either. Interesting times. Could never deal with it all if I was still drinking. Iām going to have as good a day as I possibly can and hope you will all do the same. Much love from Vondelpark.
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I bet this is a hard one for many of us ā¦to find peace with peace. Itās not easy but doable, we just have to redefine the definition of excitement.
@Butterflymoonwoman great 1400!!!
@Kareness Huge congratulations!!!
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Hello everyone!
DAY 109 - Check-in
I keep waking up earlier than needed, but itās not a problem.
As the year ends, Iām thinking about 2026 and donāt know what to do. The most challenging option is to stay as quiet as possible, prioritize sobriety to get as strong as I can, and delay ādecisionsā that might be too hazardous now.
Iām not in immediate need of anything particular, and if I can compromise with my ego during this phase, Iāll be fine. I just donāt want to jump into the ānext thingā because my mind demands it. My intuition says otherwise.
Though harder to trust, Iāll quietly follow it. Iād rather push longer, believing life will guide me.
Today Iām grateful for:
- Meditation
- Resilience
- Protection
Wishing everyone 24 solid sober hours!
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Irony can be misunderstood very quickly, especially when youāre only writing and canāt hear or see facial expressions or tone of voice. Obviously, it wasnāt clear to her that it was a joke. To be honest, I only understood that you meant it as a joke because you explicitly explained it here.
I donāt think misunderstandings are about blame. They can always happen; theyāre part of communication. A misunderstanding can be a door that opens the way to understanding each other better.
Do you think it might be a good step to tell her very clearly how much respect you have for her work as a nurse, just so she knows that for sure (because it seems she may not)? Would that feel okay for you?
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Beautiful! 
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Day 58 smoke free, 37 binge eating free.
Changing my no sugar timer into a no snacking timer. I realized snacking is a bigger issue than sugar right now. Ƥ
Today I will go to the post office to send a big christmas present to my dear friends, go to the gym and do some paperwork.
Have a peaceful day everyone, and watch out for these little enjoyments 
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Horrible and very saddening this Seb,my Sister was in the city and got a phone call off my nephew telling her to go home immediately,my nephew is a paramedic in the city and was just clocking off shift when they got the call 
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Glad to hear your family members are ok.
Very disturbing times here
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754 sugar
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Woke up in the dark and got to see a beautiful sicle moon and then the sun rising so slowly. Going to get into my art practice after multiple weeks of abscence. Need to get back into the feeling of my project. Also back into rowing and exercise.
Peace and love always 
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Day 3 sober (162 days since I started the journey).
A lot of you kindly replied in regards to my first relapse on Friday evening. Iām feeling ok about it today and rather than guilt taking hold Iām trying to learn.
I suffer from Bipolar, and as any of you who have had to deal with the same, the process of diagnosis and potential remedies is a years long journey.
Two weeks ago I could feel myself become more manic and felt this extreme for the first time while sober. It took a huge toll on me and by Friday I actively made the decision to have that first drink. The one thing I did learn from my sober life was that honesty really is the best policy. So I faced the music and got home early to tell my partner I was drunk. She has been nothing short of a saint this weekend and I feel like rather than this being a fresh start I would rather count it as day 162 with one dodgy evening.
Open to all thoughts on this and thanks for the support. X
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Love the colors!
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Day one 
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Day 26
Up early and itās been too long since Iāve done a check in.
I got a sponsor yesterday! Iām really excited to work with him. Woke up this morning to a great reading he sent me about faith.
Iām starting my morning routine early to actually pray on time for the first time in forever! I pray every morning but after sunrise which isnāt the practice of my religion.
Iām looking toward to the day. Iāve got to finalize some travel plans. After I drop the kids at school, my day is structured around meetings that I enjoy. Iām going to make avocado devilled eggs today. Iām doing a fridge clean out for dinner, so excited about the unknown dish that Iām going to make.
Everyone has the power today by the faith in their higher power to live the way they want!
Enjoy everyone.
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