Rules still apply in the derailment thread. If you donāt like a member of the community mute them.
Here is a link for TS rules and in this case specifically pay attention to this one:
1.) Above all, be civil. Be respectful of the topics and the people discussing them, even if you disagree. Do not attack, name call, bully, belittle, gang up on, badger or harass other community members
If you see something you believe is against community guidelines or rules flag it. Lets look to help, not fight.
Ooo I donāt know if you will be able to get it where you are, in Australia we have a brand called Bundaberg which does great soft drinks!
Aldi also offer a sugar free ginger beer too, if you have Aldi where you are.
I donāt like saying itās not a choice because thatās basically saying youāre not responsible. That means we can blame every which way because itās not our fault. We are just like this. I donāt believe that realm of thinking. I believe thereās different levels or degrees of power of choice. But saying we have no choice means we canāt ever choose to change or be sober because itās literally out of our control.
Having cancer isnāt a choice.
Getting drunk and killing someone in a car that IS a choice.
I have never understood that theory. I believe we can absolutely be weak and absolutely need help to combat our addictions and to flourish in sobriety as a choice but to single handedly say itās not a choice means every person whoās an addict, who has killed or harmed or done something to someone or themselves under the influence has no accountability, no responsibility and gets off as a free pass. Because we didnāt choose to do it. We may be predisposed to addictive behaviors, etc, we have trauma and unhealthy coping mechanisms, our upbringing, mental health and such which can all be factors influencing and snowballing addictive behaviors and making bad choices.
So the drugs or addiction made me do it? Mmm. Kind of the verison of the devil made me do it.
I guess understanding about mental health - two sides of the coin an individualās personal choice, addiction itself is a mental disease rather than a continued choice. Perhaps I have been too hard on myself. Sigh. Ty for shining that light.
Gonna also update this to include medical advice. I know there are experts here on harm reduction, mental health, and probably actual doctors. However, itās impossible for anyone to know if someone is licensed, trained, or possessing expertise. Take all medical advice with a grain of salt or shot of penicillin
Seriously though. I donāt actively try to be an asshole, but sometimes I am abrasive or direct and sometimes it goes to hard. I think if you ask some of the og members here theyād say I softened a bit.
You can be very direct for sure but theres individuals like myself (for example) that really benefit from that. I have always appreciated ur direct and blunt nature bcuz i personally needed to hear that, especially in early recovery. I was in dire need of help n needed to hear the harsh truth, being told like it is. So thank u
Thank you, we just got an Aldiās less than an hour away!
