How often did u try moderation before realising it wasn’t working? (if that is ur situation)
Not to plug my own thread, but this is where I worked out how many times I tried to ‘moderate’ ‘control’ ‘drink normally’. It was a lot. I finally realized I have more chance of pooping chocolate, quite frankly, than being able to drink like a normie. It is ok, I can’t do handstands, speak Swahili either. Alcohol is one kind of beverage. I can drink others. When I miss the “sociality” I remind myself that forgetting conversations, slurring and over-sharing, falling over, etc, damage relationships more than make them closer. I remind myself that trying to control myself after one or two drinks is exponentially harder than saying no to the first drink. And I want an easy life! Sober is easier. And less shameful.