My hobbies, pastimes, interests…!
Since embarking on sober-hood, I’ve taken a 6-week online poetry course. I kept up my a small patio garden, (and didn’t have to worry when neighbours walked by and chatted if they could tell I’d been drinking), I did more at home yoga (due to covid). I hiked some local trails I hadn’t explored yet (and didn’t get lost!). My cooking works out now (ok, mostly!)
Either those things wouldn’t have happened, or they’d have been epic fails if I wasn’t sober. (There is nothing worse than drunken creative writing )
As for taking calls? I echo same, @Eke and @Dazercat
Thanks so much. I have asked him to think about his thoughts of my drinking and how it affected him. I told him that no answer could be wrong and when he’s ready we’ll discuss. Must admit this conversation isn’t one I’m inpatient about. Since becoming sober, I now live 20 minutes away from him instead of eight hours. Small one to three hour visits are taking place more frequently and I’m so thankful for that.
Oh Eric. I can so relate. My son who was having anxiety issues told me once that he had to call me earlier in the evening because he couldn’t stand to talk to me when I was drinking. So what did I do? I stopped answering the phone after I was drinking. Looking at the ugly truth, in the mirror, dead on, hurts. But it’s a necessary to keep our feet on the ground and keep us strong. Another index card in the file of “reasons to never drink again.” Hugs. You’re not alone.
Every post I read about us not being sober enough to talk or ignore our children on the phone brings another healing drop of tears.
My index cards are getting all wet.
It’s all good
Let’s start another file! We can call it “Reasons To Love a sober Life With My Kids!” My number one index card would be to enjoy every second with appreciation that they are number one now! I like the positive thoughts too!
Lastnight I was able to take a phone call in the evening regarding my son’s rough day at school and special education accomodations… then I called to sort out an insurance situation! It is awesome to be able to feel like a functioning member of society lol I almost caved yesterday because of all of the recent stress. I’m so glad I didn’t and I faced the issues head on instead of drowning my sorrows.
Ya that phone call thing is amazing. Don’t know if you’ve read the whole thread or not. But always being there to answer the phone when it’s your kids call or kids trouble is the way it should be. Keep on keeping on you’re doing great
I was always there for the school calls but would let it go to voicemail and email back and not get half of the points across that I’d wanted to. It is such a good feeling to handle things as they happen with confidence! Life is good!
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I like the positive thoughts too!
But I never end up feeling embarrassed about it 
