Continuing the discussion from Conglomerated List of "Things that can F*ck right off* (Part 1) - #2640 by Pattycake.
Previous discussions:
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This new thread being empty can FRO!
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The man sitting next to me during the meeting. That runs his mouth, and I donât even think he is paying attention to what he is saying. If that can actually happen?
Literally his eyeballs were bouncing around like a super ball. Finally after a good while, it just started to sound like the teacher in the Charlie Brown shows. whah, whah, whahâŠâŠ
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Sorry this made me giggle 
whah whah whaahâŠlol i remember that!
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Recruiting staff.
It is simple, you want the job then apply for it, turn up for the interview, bring your identification and start on the agreed date.
If you dont want the job then dont apply for it.
People that willingly waste my time by not turning up for an interview, or turning up then not arriving to start the job can all fuck right off.
At an estimate this week (its only Wednesday) i have wasted six hours on people either not coming to the interview or accepting the job and not coming to work. Im too busy to waste time on this.
Im really quite angry tonight.
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People who leave their dogs in the car without proper climate control on warm/hot days, when the sun is out, can FRO!!! Cracking the windows doesnât do it people 
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@WilliamBloke Iâm not too surprised that you havenât heard the term before. I think the term âtoxic positivityâ is fairly newish within the last ten years or so. I wouldnât doubt it was born from the proliferation of the current iteration of the ânew ageâ movement that has become âmain stream popularâ (though this kind of thing can be found in some very religious circles as well). It kind of refers to people who insist on a âpositive mindsetâ with everything, to the point that it involves denying or burying issues under the guise of being âpositiveâ. As we know, you have to admit there is a problem before it can be fixed, but this kind of behavior doesnât allow for this kind of important soul searching.
I realized I went on a little too long, so put the rest of this comment under an expandable tab...
I used to teach a girl, who was eight at the time, and her parents were like this. They would say that if you bring up negative things that it would âdraw more negativity to youâ; which, yes⊠if all you do is focus on the negative than this is the case, but it was applied to everything, to the extent that this girl could not admit to any emotions that seemed remotely ânegativeâ. There were days that I could tell she was sad or something was going on, but I would get things like âOh⊠Iâm fine⊠there are other people worse off than meâŠâ. I worry about her denying the existence of her feelings because her parents tell their kids to just âbe happy and then you will be happyâ or âdonât focus on whatâs making you sad but just be happy for other things you have.â
I think Iâm starting to rant just a bit, but it does really bother me. I think this is how many people slide down the path of addiction. We have emotions that weâve denied, for whatever reason, and instead we used other things to feel better, or feel good, or forget about the bad emotions. What happens when this girl grows up and she has no realistic framework to deal with the intensity of her negative emotions? How will she be able to âjust be happyâ then?
Iâm not asking you (Iâm sure you knew that but just to be sure!), theyâre just open ended questions to the universe, born out of my frustration for this kind of behavior. I think itâs a great thing to try and have a more positive mindset overall, but I think it needs to be married with a dose of logic and realism. I get frustrated with people who are constantly negative to the point where they canât/wonât look at the situation realistically, just as much as I do with individuals who are so âpositiveâ that the issue gets stuffed away in the basement of our psyches only to become a monster that whispers in our ear.
Sorry to have begun ranting about the topic again! Itâs clearly a topic that gets me riled up.
@Olivia 
you are absolutely correct! I always ask myself if someone only knows how to read print if they could read the address as my âprintâ has some elements taken from cursive, though I remember 20+ years ago it wasnât uncommon to see envelopes addressed in full out cursive and I swear you could always tell when it was addressed by some little 80 year old lady.
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@Pattycake just my two cents here but if you can, hire someone to do a few of those jobs that are stressing you out.
If your hubs wonât get to it someone else will.
The patient transport tech who was walking by me and commented on the amount of food I was carrying for lunch. Yes it is a lot of food. Your unnecessary opinion can FRO while I enjoy my salad, sandwich, banana and chips, sir. 
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Yes. Every time I suggest hiring out one of the jobs, he gets ballistic. So it is my fear of his anger that keeps me so stuck. I hate Iâm such a wimp about it, but if I just hire someone behind his back and they show up to do the job, heâll be really mad. I canât handle it. And that can FRO!!!
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Ah sorry. I would have just hired to show my husband that I would get stuff done if he didnât but angry men are a different animal. You know whatâs best for you here. Keep yourself sane and safe and that scenario can FRO.
Edited to say you absolutely arenât a wimp. You are someone who is surviving someone elseâs anger. I wish I could give him a swift kick in the rear for scaring you. đ©·
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Can you possibly discuss a deadline for him to do it by - or arrange it himself- and if itâs not then agree that outside help might be needed? That way heâs part of the decision.
By the way, thatâs not cool that you donât feel you get to make these decisionsâŠI would definitely try to test the waters with explaining how this affects you. If you can do this safely of course. 
Be safe.
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Iâm sorry about that. Donât know how your system works,but here the government owned unemployment agency force you to apply for whatever job available. Regardless of education preference or other. If you donât apply you wonât get any money during the time youâre looking for a job. If you get called to an interview you have to go. And they will Check with the job youâre applying for if you got there or not. They will also check what jobs you have applied for because to get any money at all you need to send in reports every month.
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Hi, in the Uk job seekers have to show they have applied for a certain amount of jobs, but there is no follow up by the benefits agency to see if the recruiter offered interview or even a position.
Nor can the recruiter go to the benefit agency and let them know that people didnt attend an interview or declined a job. The system is massively open to exploitation.
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I can totally relate to that!
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Hereâs the deal, I am a codependent. Thatâs what can FRO. That and my husbands addiction to alcohol,and weed. I vented here about him not doing shit around here rather than have yet another argument with him about it, @Tragicfarinelli , and @Doreen1 and @TrustyBird , you have all been so kind about this.! I really appreciate you!
Maybe I will post later in more detail on the thread about loved ones who are addicted. This thread is really helpful though, for just venting!
So Iâll say it again, codependency can FRO!
Love you guys!
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I am a codependent too. I think we would be surprised by how many addicts are. Thanks for your honesty here and I hope you didnât feel called out. Iâm married to a man who drinks every day. No comparison here only space to share. đ©·
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Heartache. Weâre back here. Yup. Come on, give it to me. You donât even need to FRO. Just swallow me up again, Iâll come out like Jonah. Maybe this is my super power. Loving despite.
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Negativity can FRO. Backstory, my mom is still an alcoholic in her 70âs and itâs brutal to deal with, wears on ya after a while, she lives close by so itâs hard to avoid when she stops by everyday. Most negative bitter person I know, thatâs the truth.
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People who compare their divorce or breakup with your spouse dying⊠
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Thanks, didnât feel called out at all! Truly appreciate the feedback. 
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