This may be my fav ongoing thread. Thanks for keepin’ real guys.
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More of this, please.
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I was crying and blathering on for like an hour.
Wait - I think we had the same experience! 
Crying blatherer on knees = MoCatt.
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So if resentments are the number one killer of an alcoholic I have to assume excuses are in 2nd place.
If people put the same effort into sobriety as they put into making excuses as to why they can’t, then pretty much everyone would stay sober for good.
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You ever notice that you tend to find what you are seeking? If you look for differences and reasons why not, that’s all you will find. If you are seeking sobriety you will find it through all the other things.
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When all you have is a hammer, every problem becomes a nail.
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I was definitely one who steadfastly refused to accept powerlessness. I still do not think I am powerless over saying no to the first drink. However, when I drank last night, I could physically feel the switch flip, after the first swallow, I acknowledge that as powerless. I FELT the alcohol take control. I could have said no to the first drink, but after that…not so much.
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Exactly. “No” is my power. As long as I exercise this power, I am control. Powerlessness comes with a “yes”.
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Dear Diary, Stevie hit the nail on the head today.
My only tool before this sobriety was a hammer, i was gonna smash my way out of anything, and don’t try and stop me.
My way got me to the state I was in, restless, irritable and discontent with life. I have a tool bag now and so many more tools, a tool for every job and growing know how of their place and use.
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30-60-90 days sober is awesome, especially if you’ve not been able to do this before.
But a bit of perspective is wise. Are you really ready for a romantic relationship, or to resume life in the same social circles as before?
Crawl. Walk. Run. This is the natural order of things for a reason. We don’t go from stationary to having the ability to run, overnight. There’s much to learn, many in between stages that we must go through. Coordination, balance and a better sense of “cause and effect” are crucial to learning how to move.
Sobriety is not so different. Yes, we need to move forward. Yes, we want to get as far as we can, as fast as we can. We feel like we have to catch up to the world. But stumbling happens when we’re trying to move faster than we are ready.
Take some time learning how to walk. It’s not a race. Then run.
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I went from saying “AA isn’t for me” to saying “alcohol isn’t for me” with an open mind, now I have over a year of joyous, happy and free life mostly lol
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We were blind but now we see. It’s frustrating when people don’t get this, but it’s just not their time.
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I was blind to the possibility of recovery. Like Shay said recently, I was contented to die a junkies death bc I just really didn’t see how I was going to get better. Turns out the answer was 12 simple steps. Who knew?
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Well the millions who came before you and worked those steps knew, but it’s a program based on attraction and not promotion. If a junkies death looks more enticing than some simple work on oneself than that’s the fate you will suffer.
I can only hope that the people who see the junkies death as inevitable, seek out other sources/ways of living. Then I can help them.
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Dear potheads,
I hate to break it to you, but pot is a drug and people can ruin their lives just as easily as any other drug. Please don’t come to a Sobriety forum saying how easy it is to get sober. Especially if you aren’t actually sober. If you were so good at getting clean why didn’t you stay that way?
Sincerely,
Reality
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I saw this girl posted something on another sobriety forum the other day that said something to the effect of “what can I tell the doctor to give me, I’ve been taking clonazepam, seroquel, and xanax but I still cant sleep and I’m hurting bad, it’s been 3 days, being sober sucks, I’m bout to just give up and go get a bag” Lmao
First of all u ain’t nowhere near sober hon, all you’ve done is replace you doc with 3 other drugs that are almost as bad, as long as you keep getting high on something that addict behavior is gonna stick with you. Second, you spent the better part of a decade screwing yourself up getting high and you think you’re gonna unfuck yourself in one night of not doing your doc? That’s like breaking your leg and expecting it to be fully healed by the time they finish putting the cast on…sry but there is gonna be a fair bit of pain and a lot of hard work and rehabilitation on your part before you’re back to walking normally again.
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Ugh. I didn’t sleep for weeks. Fuck that noise. Also Seroquel is the devil.
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Yeah but the truth of the matter is id rather see someone a pothead then a junkie or alcoholic. There are rehabs setup using marijuana instead of suboxone or methadone to cope with opiate wd. I dont know any stats or success rates from this kind of rehab. Its a matter of abusing pot to feel the need to smoke to do any activity or function. For some people like any drugs affects people differently. Thats really for the person themself to know whether they can manage life and smoke. Not us…
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Nice analogy, did you tell her that?
I would think all those pills are worse than weed. Unless a “bag” is something else that I don’t know about… My virgin ears 