Hi Becky!! Welcome!! Yes, there are people here who don’t do a formal program (like me), tho I have read about a lot of them and learned a lot from them as well. I drank for 40+ years, lots of drugs in that time as well. I was 56 when I got sober, 6+ years ago.
I believe we all need to find what works best for us as individuals. I utilized a lot of resources as well in my journey. This is a lengthy response, but I wanted to share some of what helped me along the way, maybe some of it can be of use to you…
Community
I started my journey years ago and there were fewer ‘sober curious’ resources, but these ones were in place. I took a lot from each place…
Reddit r/stopdrinking
Women for Sobriety (WFS)
Soberistas
She Recovers
Talking Sober (here!)
After spending time on various forums and sites, I found being active here, even if just reading a lot, was really helpful for me. I am on here daily and that helps me be a part of a community and gain strength, wisdom and experience from others.
Movement
Moving my body in the ways that worked best for me - helping to release and move emotions (old and new) out - bicycle riding, HIIT fitness classes, hatha yoga, walking, running, hiking - finding the movement that works for you and your specific body. Emotions and past experiences can get stuck inside - getting them out frees up space and spaciousness within…lessens our load. 
Being present
Calming my mind thru yin yoga, mindfulness and meditation - reading Pema Chodron, Sharon Salzberg, Thich Nhat Hahn. Helping to quiet the anxious mind that alcohol was numbing. Being present with my emotions and allowing them space to flow thru me, versus escaping/numbing them with alcohol.
Especially important to me has been keeping my focus on today…this moment. Not drinking in this moment. I don’t have to worry about tomorrow, that wedding in 3 months or forever. I just have to be here in this moment and not drink.
Restore
Resting my body and brain thru sleep - including putting myself to bed early and often in the early days of sobriety. Listening to sleep meditations and yoga nidra (Insight Timer, YouTube). Allowing my body time to regenerate and restore and gain strength.
Nourish
Drinking a ton of water and LaCroix to clear my cells. Eating a lot of sweets in early days to comfort and then after a year and a half, releasing added sugar and processed carbs from my diet. This helped me feel clearer and stronger.
Soothe
Lots of journaling - releasing emotions and thoughts, worries and anxieties as much as possible by putting pen to paper (versus numbing). Knitting, gardening and baking have also been helpful in soothing myself…all are meditative. There are so many more interesting and fascinating hobbies that people share about on here.
I find that same release writing here (thus the lengthy post). 
Hot epsom baths or soaking in the hot tub (especially helpful when anxious)
Educate
Reading and rereading a LOT of sober memoirs/novels (see my list here… What kinds of books do you like or recommend? - #4 by Sassyrocks )
All the reading helped me reframe my feelings on alcohol and its part in my life. It allowed me to learn from others experiences and to know I am not alone or weird for how I feel or the experiences I have had.
Commit
I found it really helpful to not keep any wine in the house (wine being a huge trigger for me at the end of my lengthy drinking career). This was non negotiable.
I avoided activities and get togethers that would involve alcohol in early days/weeks/months so that I could nurture my sobriety and gain some sober muscles.
One of the things most helpful to me in early days was keeping a list of how I want to live my life/what sobriety offers…I kept it on my phone and when I started thinking, hey, maybe just one glass of wine, I read my list and remembered how desperate and unhappy drinking made me. Here is some of that list…
- No hangovers ever!!
- Treating my husband with respect and no drunk fighting
- Self respect gets a major boost
- No more internal conflict about drinking and if/how can I cut down or stop
- Restful restorative uninterrupted sleep!!!
- Major pride in myself and all that I have and can accomplish
- A sense of peace and calm
- No more embarrassment and shame because of my behavior
- Forgiving myself for past mistakes and terrible judgement
- No wondering what I did or how I hurt husband or others while drunk
- No treating people I love, including myself, poorly while drunk
- No drunk driving and possibly hurting self or others or jail
- No upset stomach from drinking
- No anxiety and near constant agitation when hungover
- No dark suicidal thoughts
- No blackouts ever
- No overwhelming shame at my behavior
- No oversharing with strangers while drunk or making plans I will need to cancel
- Not having to check my phone in the middle of the night to delete social media posts - no drunk texting/emails/posts/calls
- Not be bloated and puffy and look haggard
- Major pride in myself and a boost in self esteem
- No hangovers ever again
- No more excuses or lies
So glad you are here and examining your relationship with alcohol. I know it can seem daunting, but working towards a healthier and happier you is such an empowering thing. Change can happen. Believe in yourself. 