Nice to meet you. Its 6am on Friday. Im on Day 3. I’m really nervous about today and the weekend. I am away at a competition for my children. We are booked to stay in a pub for the weekend while we are away. Obviously the addict in me thought that was a great idea (). So Im anxious about that as number 1.
But also all the competition venues have bars and its become part of our routine to sit and drink with friends while we wait for our kids turns etc and the results. So thats temptation number 2 although that feels less daunting tbh.
I’d love a few people just to share what difficult circumstances they may be navigating this weekend and the temptations they are dodging, so we can drop on here and distract each other with chit chat, struggles, tactics and successes as they happen in the moment over this weekend. I need a mini support group around me so we can cheer each other up. I dont really have people in real life I can talk to openly in the way I need.
I have got this….but Id appreciate some pocket companionship and hope I can support you too!
Welcome to Talking Sober SJ! Hope you can find some support here. I’m pretty sure you can actually. Have a look around, maybe post in another thread or two. You are definitely not alone. Be sure you can do this. Love your idea of finding help as together we can make this. Wishing you all success friend.
Welcome! Glad you found TS, it’s an amazing place for support, advice and connection.
Are there any non alcoholic drinks that you like? Get yourself a stack for the weekend so you have something you can enjoy.
Do people around you know that you don’t drink? Like don’t drink at all? Do you want to know them? If I am in an environment where I don’t want to share why I don’t drink, I tell people that I‘m on some kind of medication and I‘m not allowed to drink at all. Saves me lots of endless discussions
Looking forward to see you posting again! Please join our other threads
Thank you. I will go join those threads absolutely. I cant cancel unfortunately, the children are in a World Cup competition. It would be cruel and the booking is non-refundable. But that’s why Im putting all the support around me I can.
Ooh thank you. The medication response could absolutely come in handy this weekend. Although Im somewhat confident that if I tell the people Im with Im going sober this weekend they wouldnt think twice. Its more my own habits and temptations I need to fight. But I have stocked up on a load of fancy flavours of soda can varieties to keep myself interested elsewhere.
And I think that will be the harder of the days probably. We’ve stocked up on food and drink now for the room so we dont need to venture into the pub bit for the rest of the weekend. And Ive got some fun beverage options for the competition. But honestly I think that will be easier. So Im feeling super good rn.
Great update!! Glad you got thru the pub. Sending good luck for your kiddos competition. Have fun and it may be a blessing to have this distraction to get thru these first days! Keep checking in
Definitely here for you in spirit! I’m on day 11 and the first few days were tough as hell . Suns out here and I’m mega tempted but so far holding strong. You have got this!!!
@DanielaJ Thank you so much for the message. Dropping on here to keep myself accountable has been so helpful!
@Sobanoodle Day 11 is amazing! So close to that 2 weeks! We got this
So yesterday was harder than I expected but Im waking up successful on Day 5. I found walking past the bar to get to toilet planted the “maybe just one?” thoughts which shook me a little. A couple of men past me on some stairs too with full glasses and that turned my head a little. But I took a breath and reminded myself ODAAT (which in my head I say One Drink At A Time…as in I only have to turn down the opportunity or want for a drink one at a time) and moved myself away.
The kids took 2nd place in the World Cup and we celebrated with smores as a family.
Im sleeping better without a doubt which is WILD because I convince myself I cant sleep without a drink to help me turn off the brain. But last 2 nights Ive slept through where usually my sleep is broken.
I have a personal goal for my eyes to whiten. I noticed them yellowing which was one of the big arggghh the insides of our body must be poisoned signs.
One more weekend day to get through. One competition left. And Im excited that the 1 week milestone isnt far off
Awesome update and thats awesome about #2 in the world cup. We just have to say no to the first drink and the insanity is avoided. The cravings and obsessions will lessen with time as you rebuild healthier habits.
I juat wanted to welcome u to the community!! I was catching up on ur thread and am super impressed with how u handled the urges and everything yesterday. Not easy to do initially, but it DOES get easier as time passes.
Its good to have a plan. I call them my “If-Then” scenerios. If this happens then I do this… sort of thing. Has helped me in various life challenges
Hope the approaching week goes well for u, especially next weekend. And congratulations to ur kiddos for their 2nd place win at the World Cup!
Aww thank you! Thinking of it as an If-Then is a great way to structure it to help with planning! That’s super useful!
We are officially competition clear and on the way home! Next big obstacle will be pushing past the that was a I need wine kind of Monday
But IF that happens….then I’ll paint my nails perhaps. And that’s a full 24 hrs from now. Still holding strong. Thank you to everyone who checked in and encouraged me to keep updating. It has been so helpful having this outlet to be honest and vulnerable on. SJ
). So Im anxious about that as number 1.
. Suns out here and I’m mega tempted but so far holding strong. You have got this!!!
