I’m 2 days without drinking. My husband kids and all family has disowned me. They believe it’s a choice not a disease. Advice moving forward each day when I’m so alone?
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Welcome to the community and congrats on your sober days! We all know what you’re going through. I am sorry you don’t get much support from your Family. Stay with yourself and with your goal, and come back here whenever you feel alone. There are always people here you can connect with.
Addiction can be overcome and healed! Have you thought about trying an AA meeting? There are also online meetings if that’s easier for you.
Feel free to reach out and look around here, you can find amazing advice!
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Welcome Shawna,
Congratulations on day 2.
You have found a great place for support.
Have a good read around, learn what you can and keep an open mind to what works for those of us that are sober.
Join in when you’re comfortable.
I believe it is a disease. We did have a choice early on. And I don’t think any of us wanted to end up alcoholics. It’s a special type of disease all us alcoholics have. Many people don’t understand that.
And you know what? It doesn’t matter what they think.
Actions over time equal trust. And it might take a long time to earn that trust back. Just keep doing the next right thing. And do not pick up that first drink.
Do you have a support system in place?
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I just started going to AA. I plan on going 4-5 times a week and got a sponsor. I just don’t know if my kids will ever come around. I’ve told my 21 daughter horrible things calling her bitch etc she knew just how to get under my skin. I know I just need to focus on me healing being sober and accept that I may never have those relationships back it just hurts my soul. I have only drank for 3 years it started as once a week then twice a week then binge drinking started
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I just started going to AA and got a sponsor so I grateful for that
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I’m in AA with 11 days sober and my life has turned around, drastically.
The first week is the hardest, your brain and body are trying to get you to drink. This is where the advice of “Don’t drink and go to meetings” comes into play.
Be kind to yourself, don’t worry with what you’ve done. That can’t be changed. Focus on what you’re doing now, your gratitude list will be your best friend.
Relationships heal with time. The people that are upset with you, will see your progress. They have empathy for you and want you to get better, even if they aren’t showing it this moment.
The AA zoom meetings are amazing, and accessible 24/7.I’ve found it to be my greatest tool in my toolbox.
Remember if you have the urge, call someone (your sponsor or an AA friend) or join a meeting.
Here is the link to all the zoom meetings.
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Welcome to our community.
You made a good decision to quit drinking. It’s your choice to stay sober today and you have taken the responsibility for your problematic use. That’s a great thing and it takes courage to do this.
There’s plenty of support out there including this place to get into contact who will cheer your little victories and who will understand your struggles with your decision.
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Welcome here and give yourself a break. When we are active in our disease we can’t see OUR part in things and then after years of doing things OUR way we find that the damage we do doesn’t magically go away in 30/60/90 days. It take courage to realize that we need help but you need to focus on healing from within before you can worry about repairing the outside world. Sober time takes time not days. I’ve made it 8247 days because I accepted help and I pray you do to as well.
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may I be so bold as to offer a suggestion? try AA.. they have 2 tests, one is: go back out and see if you can do some control drinking, the other test is: stop drinking for a year. May I make another suggestion? try to do the second test, not the first one. Sponsorship in AA is encouraged in the groups I attend too. Let me know if you need more resources, AA destroys a forest every year printing out pamphlets about our program, but? we also have most of the stuff online too.
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Thank you I screwed up last night and drank. I’m going to AA tonight. Alcholol has sucked my energy out of me. I’m having blurry vision. I want to feel good and I’m on Naltrexone. Thought about trying Antabuse
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you are not alone man.
im struggling too, even though i haven’t drank in years.
i love going to meetings, that might be worth a shot.
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we don’t shoot our wounded, is a phrase we say to those who slip, which speaks from grace & love, not shame. I have suffered too, and you don’t have to suffer alone. We are in the rooms, find us, come in, get connected and? stay.