I cannot strop drinking I’m ashamed and ruined from it all all I want is to be sober
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My kids hate me family think I’m a disgrace and I don’t know how to come out of it ,I tried therapy didn’t work don’t know what’s next for me
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Hi lance Try an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting you will meet people who understand your struggle s and are fighting this disease along with you ,one day at a time. sending love and hugs to you today 
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Hi Lance, I feel your pain. I really do. Don’t drink today. No matter what go to bed sober and do whatever it takes to get there. Even if it’s talking to us all day long.
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Hi Lance,
Take it one day at a time, small manageable pieces. It can be overwhelming to think how we can be sober forever more and how to fix all the things that alcohol has ruined.
Just for today, don’t pick up that first drink. That is as much as you need to focus on today.
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I’m on day 3 already but solely down to being so sick I don’t want to try AA don’t think it’s for me I just
. Don’t know anymore,this is rock bottom for me
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I’m sober 3 days just don’t want AA not for me and I’ve been here so many times before that’s what scares me
So many people are afraid of what they don’t know. Try 5 or 6 meetings. What have you got to loose? If you don’t like it I’ll refund your misery.
For what it’s worth. I never wanted to go to AA either. I don’t think any of us did.
The only way I could get sober was to ask for help and be with people who would understand.
Get to a meeting.
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How many different therapists have you seen? I’m on my second therapist, the first one was not helpful, in fact I think they actually hindered my recovery, the current one is BRILLIANT.
Regarding AA, I’ve never been, but I recently started going to SAA, like you I didn’t think it was for me, I’m still not 100% sure, it does feel fairly traditional/preachy/religious but you just kind of ignore those bits if they aren’t for you, you can kinda “translate” it into non-religious talk. The big benefit of the meetings are it’s a real community. I feel like a massive part of addiction is it isolates you and makes you feel alone. As soon as you walk through the door to a alcohol/sex addicts/ narcotics/whatever anonymous meeting you are joining a like-minded bunch of people who are all experiencing the same difficulties and trying to achieve the same thing, sobriety.
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So is going to AA worse than the life you described in your original post?
So you aren’t willing to do AA, what are you willing to do to get sober?
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My own journey to AA
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It seems like you’re at rock bottom, you need to make a plan to climb back out.
Try to be open towards any suggestion which could help you, and try it out, even if you don’t think it will work or do not think it is for you. Try to be open and accept help and suggestions. This way you can start to move away from the drink.
There are no answers to this problem at the bottom of yet another bottle
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Early on in my current sobriety, I was quite sure that AA wasn’t for me. What I did sign up for was outpatient therapy which included being urine tested randomly (even though my attendance wasn’t court ordered, but I liked the stick it presented me with).
After a while, I found that outpatient therapy wasn’t doing it for me anymore and I continued on my own for a bit. About halfway through my current stint, I realized that I was getting a bit lonely in my sobriety/recovery and decided to give AA a try. I almost completed 90 meetings in 90 days, before deciding that AA wasn’t for me.
Since then, I have discovered this forum/community and I am active on here every single day, trying to contribute and learn.
I am telling you all this in the hope that you’ll realize that, once you hit rock bottom and you want to be 100% serious about kicking alcohol to the curb, you don’t really have the luxury of opinions and choices, you just need to clutch at every straw that presents itself. Call it AA, therapy, Dharma Recovery, whatever, it really does not matter as long as you work your sobriety hard, every single day and without prejudice. I wish you good luck
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Day 3 sounds like awesome to me, it’s a hell of a start! 
Nobody got to day 1000 without getting past day 3!
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Try an online SMART meeting. They occur often, you don’t have to speak unless you want to. You can do this…
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Go to AA! You can try an online meeting first if you don’t want to do in person. Go to intherooms website. They have lots of recovery meetings, not just AA.
Please put the bat down, stop beating yourself up. You are human and you are in the disease of addiction. Your addiction does not define you and it’s not who you are. You are sick, just like when you have a cold, you need to get medicine. Go to a meeting to get your medicine. You might wanna also consider going to an intensive outpatient drug treatment program.
I lost everything to my drug addiction back in 2011, including my nursing career temporarily. I got arrested and had two felony charges pending until I entered into drug court. I did one year of intensive outpatient drug treatment where I was required to do random drug screens, I also had to report to the Board of Nursing and entered into an intervention program for Nurses. That is where I also had to check in every day and do random drug screens for a total of six years! That is what it took for me to get clean. It’s OK to ask for help, it’s OK to not be OK, you are right where you’re meant to be. I’m proud of you for reaching out on here, please don’t forget that you are not alone, and you are not a bad person. This is not your fault, this is your disease.
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I got this from the “Bible Chat” app.-
“Struggling with addiction is a difficult battle, but there is hope and guidance in the Scriptures. The Bible acknowledges the challenges associated with overindulgence and offers wisdom. In Ephesians 5:18, it advises: “And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit.”
Finding strength to overcome addiction also involves seeking God’s help and leaning on Him for support. In 1 Corinthians 10:13, we’re reminded: “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”
Additionally, reaching out for support from a community, such as a church group or a support network, can be crucial. Galatians 6:2 tells us: “Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.”
Recovery is a journey that requires prayer, perseverance, and the support of others. Rest in the knowledge that God’s grace and mercy are abundant and that He is with you every step of the way.”
I seem to be doing fine in my recovery and there isn’t and hasn’t been a prayer in sight. In other words, not everyone wants/needs religion involved in their journey, please keep that in mind.
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