I did a year sober back in 2023, fell off in 2024 and I’ve been drinking ever since. This is day 2 and man did I forget how hard these first few weeks are going to be. Those nighttime depressive feelings are peak but I’m really determined. It’s really difficult having a spouse that can drink and not get out of control. I know I have to stay away from her when she’s drinking for a couple months at least. Have a great day sober peeps!
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Welcome Will. Congratulations on day 2. My wife kept drinking, unfortunately uncontrollably, when I quit for good. It was hard. But I concentrated so much on my recovery and gratitude and spent a lot of time on here I got through it. It was hard as all hell too. Just the quitting part.
Anyway. If you’re willing there’s a great bunch of grateful alcoholics on this thread.
Pull up a chair. The lights are always on. Bring your own coffee.
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Thanks for sharing with us… and congratulations on reaching Day 2.
It will be a real challenge if your spouse is not on board - but others here have dealt with that as well, so you’re not alone.
The important thing to know is, YOU can be sober.
This community is an awesome support, so stay connected with us. Try to read around here each day to get encouragement and insights.
Check in with us before you drink, and let us help you.
You have done this before, and you can do this again - even though these first few weeks will totally suck.
Wishing you the best!
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Thank you! I’m hangin in there. Knowing what to do and actually doing it are 2 different things. 
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Thank you! This app is a little confusing but I’ll figure it out
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Welcome mate. A years impressive. I once did 8 or so months. Nearly 9 months I think.
That was back end of 2019 ish. It took me 6-7 years to stop again. That is now. Im currently on day #210.
Never falling for that trap again.
This app is my #1 tool for my current sobriety. Check in daily. Read heaps. Stay accountable. Learn soo very much from everyone else. So much collective wisdom in these threads.
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If you got any questions about navigating the app. Just ask. We were all new once and we are all willing to help.
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Absolutely!! I know what I did back then. Time to stand tf up and do it again!
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Thank you so much!
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Have you tried a meeting they might help they helped me
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I was in AA for a year back in 2023. I’m an athiest so AA is hard for me but I am going back to my Sunday meeting this week. I do miss the fellowship and helping others. Talking to other alcoholics definitely helped me stay sober that year
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Sobriety can become very personal and complicated when your spouse drinks. That doesn’t necessarily mean that she drinks excessively, but she may be a regular drinker and having alcohol at home may simply be normal in your household.
If you are going through a particularly vulnerable time, ask her to remove the alcohol from the house for a while. Think of it almost as asking someone you trust to help you manage a medication when you’re not in the best position to manage it yourself. If there is trust between you, ask her. Don’t be afraid of what she might say.
On the other hand, perhaps you are able to cope reasonably well with having alcohol at home and with your wife drinking. Everyone’s situation is different. But in either case, try to think less about what other people drink or what they may think of you, and concentrate on yourself. Avoid situations that put your sobriety at risk and always have preventive strategies in mind.
The goal is not to make other people comfortable or to worry about what they think of you. The goal is not to drink.
It can also be very helpful to use whatever social support works for you: AA meetings, this app or forum, talking to another person in recovery, or simply reaching out to someone you trust. It doesn’t necessarily have to be religious, and it doesn’t even have to involve psychological or psychiatric treatment if that isn’t what you need right now. But I do believe recovery involves something beyond the purely physical. For me, there is a spiritual dimension to this illness and to recovery from it. Others may understand that differently, and that’s fine.
For now, focus on yourself and protect your sobriety.
Two days is already something to be proud of. And day three can be even better.
Stay strong, and good luck.
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Thank you so much!! My wife is super supportive. I talked to her last night and we agreed that for the first month at least while I’m adjusting back into sobriety that if she’s going to drink that she’ll tell me and I can sleep upstairs that night, no big deal. I feel like the main reason I stayed sober that year was I was regularly attending meetings and helping others. It’s hard for me as an athiest in AA, especially in the small town I live in. It’s in south Texas where there isn’t a secular meeting in sight. I have childhood trauma involving “god" and religion. That’s why I stopped going and eventually drank again. I think I’m going to go back with a different perspective of “Everyone’s program is different and it’s none of my business." The only thing that matters is that I stay sober for me. Thank you for your kind words!! 
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P.S. Man I forgot how effin great it feels to wake up sober!! Love it!
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I can relate to this…
I was raised in a strict religious environment. There was some good, and also some bad that came from that experience. So, although I can’t say I’m an atheist, God is not a helpful motivator for me right now.
My greatest support comes from being a daily part of this community. I also have one guy outside of this community who acts as an ally on my recovery journey…
Find what works for you and stick to it every day… you got this!
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Thank you!! Thank means a lot! Evenings are rough but you’re right, we got this!
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My mate is a athiest and he goes to meetings withy me hes just turned 35 years sober wish you well
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Thank you!!
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