I have relapse again anad again. Im not strong enough to kwt it pass me. When i drink that is my trugga to put somwthing up my nose. I dont crave it but having money being bored is my trigger. Im trying to stay away from my husband and friends that does that. It is because i really do not have nobody here. I moved here because of my husband. I jere to ask how what helped in these situations.
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1st of all WELCOME. You’ve made a huge step reaching out for help. I would highly recommend exploring the threads. I will tag a few I found helpful. I was in a very similar situation just in a different order. I hope you stick around. I have found so many lovely friends here (corny yes, true also yes) 
🩷
https://talkingsober.com/t/whats-your-plan/177233
There are many many great threads
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I want to thank for your response. I will start coming on here more to talk and wpuld love to meet new friends.
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Detox facility is usually free. Go to the hospital and tell them you need help getting clean.
Those are a few good options
Yes i know those options but i have a daughter that is 4 and i cannot just leave her. So looking for more outpatient to be honest. Thank you for your quick response. Trust me if i had someone to take care of my daughter and someone i can trust. I do use around my child. Only when the weekend come amd my mom get her. She cant watch her for no whole week because my mother has age on her
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Welcome, Im so glad youre here 🩷 As the old saying goes, nothing changes if nothing changes. It sounds like you live in a very triggering environment that I think it would be hard for anyone to stay sober in, no matter how strong they are.
At least go to an AA meeting and get a sponsor as soon as possible. If your mom can babysit while you drink and use, she can babysit for a meeting or 2 or 3.
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Thank you for being so honest. I wish there was something I could do to help you. I’ll pray for you and you should keep checking in on her so we will know you’re doing okay. You could get the times and locations for 12 step meetings in your area, with some support you will have an easier time staying clean.
Good luck to you my friend.
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I second this and PLEASE check in with us friend 
we cant do it alone and we dont have to!
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Hello my mom do not know i use. I do use every weekend nor everyday but i have been doing it fir years. Sje know i drink but i barely do that around her,my mom is a true Christian so i really do a lot of hiding. I been living a lie for years
Lots of meetings on at week ends maybe give one a try wish you well
I too have the same nose problem when I drink, the detox is god awful I’m squirming around hoping I still have a job
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You can do this! You are here and that is a start. I was a heavy daily day drinking for a little over a decade. This place saved my life and is my AA. But there are online AA meetings too, if you want them. And when I started my journey I to had many resets. But I’m sober now and I will again tonight when I go to bed.
What has help me a lot was stop thinking about quitting forever and just keep too today. The one day at time sounded silly but it does work. It sounds like you can do one day, right? Then let’s just worry about today and do whatever it takes to go to bed sober tonight. We can worry about tomorrow, when tomorrow gets here. You can do this!
Will you to staying sober with me just for today?
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Here is a one of those journey that inspired me a lot to set on my own journey to sobriety. Thank you. @Cjp. You can do it too!
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Don’t pick up
No. matter. what.
You said you don’t crave
If you didn’t crave you wouldn’t do it
Your putting everything at risk for this drug
Please quit the drugs
I don’t know if weed is legal where you are. If it is, it’s better then a hard drug
Don’t drink alcohol either. It’s a good way to fk everything up
Stick with the legal weed
Is weed legal where you are?
If you don’t pick up alcohol or hard drugs and only stick with legal weed everything will turn out ok I promise even though it’s not not going to be easy.
It
Won’t
Be
Easy
But
Will
Be
Ok
Stick with this plan
I promise it will work in time
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She doesnt have to, if she knows you drink but doesnt like it, could you share with her that you are trying to quit drinking? Maybe she would be supportive of that? If not, or you arent ready to tell her, just say you are running errands or meeting friends.
Dont let your mom, or anyone or anything, stop you from getting out of this miserable cycle. We are here for you!
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In the middle of my relapses I use to never play the tape forward
What will happen if I do this or that
The thing is that there is a consequence to actions.
If I drink this what will happen
Or
if I say or do this what will happen, also
The thing for sobriety and during recovery, two of the things we learn is how to sit with and then deal with the emotions. Instead of problem drinking or using because we feel sad or so… We understand the emotions we have, accept it, and work on negative behavior that is usually caused from that emotion.
Learning emotions are only one thing that’s worked on during sobriety and/or recovery
Numbing from life with a substance isn’t a good way to live at all in my own opinion…
Not drinking or picking up long term is extremely simple. Just don’t pick up, but it’s also super super hard to do.
It’s possible
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