continued from Checking in Daily to Maintain Focus #12
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@802 ⌠Iâm sorry to hear this Blake. Drinking will not change the situation. You need to stay clear headed and face this head on. Be ready in case you need to get to the hospital. You donât want to be in a situation, if things go down hill, where youâre in no shape to be there for your family. Stay strong!! Keeping you and your family in my prayers. 
Tried to reply to you before the thread closed
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Sorry to hear this. It is why you need to stay sober and keep moving forward. To be present. Great job on 94 days!!!
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Thanks so much. He is doing ok. We cant go to the hospital due to Covid.
This is not something I will pick up a drink over. I just recognized how I was feeling and knew it was time to reach out. Already feel so much better.
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Thanks so much!
Phew!! I was worried you were having thoughts to pick up. I didnât even think about no visitors at hospitals yet. Iâm glad youâre in a better place mentally.
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I think this was one of the big reasons I drank, to have an excuse to do nothing. Not sure if youâre the type of person that is constantly âon the goâ, and not just physically, but mentally as wellâŚalways needing to be doing something more to feel useful or âworthyâ.
Anyways, drinking was my release from the constant state of doing and bettering. I never took time to just do nothing and relax (unless I was drinking). I thought I would get lazy if I let my guard down and just relaxed. Now in sobriety, I do it all the time and Iâm so much less rigid and controllingâŚI mean Iâm still working on it lol but I feel better at least. It took some internal dialogue and negotiating to allow myself this kind of day, but I love those days now.
Why couldnât you have taken the day off and done what you wanted to do without drinking?
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I am so glad to hear it! Good for you! That one stupid pro (checking out) sometimes can feel so overwhelming, u do lose sight of literally everything else. âDo the next right thingâ is sometimes all we have.
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Hey thereâŚyour post definitely makes sense to me. By the end of my drinking, it wasnât even that enjoyableâŚall it helped me do was escapeâŚand then feel a whole lot worse once I was done escaping. When I got sober, it could quite a whileâŚbut I finally started to get quiet enough to hear the thoughts before my actions. At the end of the dayâŚthere was an issue with my internal monologue AND how I was processing the day. It wasnât my regular life I needed to escape fromâŚit was that silent quiet observer that was telling me through out the day that I wasnât good enough/didnât know what I was talking about etc. thatâs what I needed a break from. Thatâs what I was trying to escape. When I started to change the conversation in my head, it helped a whole bunch. Any whoâŚgood luck her too.
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Day 565. Today I stood up for myself and others when it was deeply uncomfortable to do so. I also had a hugely productive meeting that felt really good. Hoping for a relaxing weekend that brings some clarity to my future plans.
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Gotcha lol and youâll get there! Iâm happy you came back (I know youâve been back a while) and are doing well. I hope you find some time to relax this weekend.
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You have described Soooooo familiar feelings I come across in my life with the only difference I usually fail and drink⌠reading it I started think I read about myself. Lol
Stay strong Chris.
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Busy day working, followed by a Zoom call with cousins from the east coast, then a medical massage which relieved a lot of tension. Much better then Friday night cocktailsđ Looking forward to getting some bike time in this weekend.
@anon43625156, @Sam7, @EarnIt and @residentevile congrats on day 7. We need May 15th club challenge!
@Frantastico You Rock on 1 year. Your mention that it does get easier gives me hope.
@Apes2020 Iâve been listen to podcasts for a few years and the variety just keeps getting better.
@Beardy_McTallman kudos for resistance, youâre got this
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247 Days. I need to learn how to say no. Iâm a people pleaser and find it very hard. A family member asked me to help her out. I had to drive 5 hours round trip after working a 9 hour day. I reminded her that my license is still suspended thinking she would say never mind but nope. Her response was âjust obey the speed limit and youâll be fine.â She knows I have so much going on in my own life and obviously doesnât care.
Then my boss emails all her receipts and asks me to do her expense report. She does this on a Friday when weâre closing early. Of course, I worked longer just to get it done. Yes, she asks but how can I say no. I ler her know I had other work related things that had to get done first. Her response was âI know you can squeeze it in before the day is over.â
I continously allow people to take advantage of my kindness. I need to work on setting boundaries.
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I am like this, itâs hard , may try to gently laugh these requests off, as if theyâre joking!
âDrive while suspended, yea good one lolâ
âDo your expenses today lol, it will be late enough by the time Iâve got my own jobs done sorryâ 
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Iâll have to try that going forward. Next time Iâm asked to drive, Iâll ask if theyâre prepared to pick me up from jail if needed. lol
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Thought Iâd better do a day 7 check in. I plan on nailing this week beer free 
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Yes exactly lol, good one 
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