Drank again and feeling bad about it and sad feeling depressed 
was doing so good and started again I feel ashamed of myself disappointed in my self for starting again ……
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Use it as a learning lesson and move forward. Welcome back 
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Things that don’t work:
Disappointment
Shame
Depression
Mind you, I carry a ton of depression every day. I also carry my “why” around.
Up until I almost died in an accident, I spent 30 years trying to quit. Until now, I never made it farther than 90 days. Today I am a couple days past 19 months.
Find your why, embrace it, love it, make it important.
Welcome back.
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If getting sober were easy we would all do it on the first try.
You can’t change the past, so look forward and focus on the kind of life you want from this day onwards and work on that. 
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Normal feelings. Like others said focus on your why. I’ve been at this since November, many relapses, and I finally hit a point almost 30 days ago, after a pretty nasty relapse, that I’m done, forever, no more alcohol.
You can do this, you recognise that you do better without it. You got this.
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I feel like I’ve tried so many times too.
Then will feel stupid after starting again then having a bad/blackout night then quit. Repeat.
I feel like, “how many times does it take”?
I’ve been not drinking for 18 days and feel good about it but it’s not easy say no when you feel like a drink, or to forget past mistakes.
It’s frustrating when you come off a good streak.
I totally hear you and have felt the same way.
But think about all the progress you’ve made.
Your efforts aren’t wasted because you drank again, I’m sure you’ve learned a lot not drinking and you’ll carry that forward to be more successful this time.
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Welcome back! So sorry for the relapse. Do not let the sadness overtake you. You have a the tools you need to allow you to stack up the days. You have us in your corner to provide you support. You can start again with day 1. Hope to see you around 
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I came on here for the exact same reasons. In a way, i was annoyed by reading your post, mainly because I could see myself in it.
We can do better, we will do better!
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Not a failure just a blip, get up dust yourself off and tell yourself, let’s go again, forget yesterday focus on today, you can do this
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Back on the horse keep ,a tighter grip on the rains wish you well
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Good luck and stay strong. It is possible even if it seem it isnt.
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Get a pen and paper and write down how you are feeling.
Next time you feel an urge, take out the note and read it.
Do it now
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I don’t say good luck because to me it’s not about luck, it’s about using your resources, taking action and learning and not repeating the same patterns.
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That is solid advice, thank you Badger.
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This post made me reflect on my own life too. For the past 15 years, I’ve been trying to quit drinking, but I’ve never made it past 80 days. Each relapse turns into a 15–30 day binge, during which I end up spending all the money I earned while I was sober.
After that, the same cycle repeats—shame, depression, and overthinking about the money I’ve lost. The next day, my thoughts convince me to have “just one more drink for today,” but the pattern continues.
I have to break this chain. Today is Day 1 again, and this time, I’m determined to stay strong.
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i had more relapses than i care to count before i finally got and stayed clean.
give yourself a break, you messed up. learn from it and move on. do you go to recovery/12 step meetings? maybe some additional support would help. people you can call/text if you feel like you want to drink/use
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Good Luck. Be Strong.
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Welcome back! One thing to consider is the longer you abstain, the better you feel. Meaning, even after a week or so you start feeling much better, but then a month, you feel even better, a year really really good, and so on, I’m serious, so you could think of it is if you only stay sober for a little while you’re not getting the most bang for your buck! Best wishes! Bobby
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Hey, I just want to start by saying I see you, and you’re not alone in this. I’ve been there. I know that heavy, aching feeling of shame and disappointment after relapsing. I used to fall back into the same cycle too—feeling like I let myself and everyone else down.
But let me tell you something that changed my life: God didn’t give up on me—even when I gave up on myself. Through Jesus, I found not only forgiveness but the strength to try again. One day at a time. One moment at a time.
I’ve been walking this road of sobriety for a while now, and it’s not always perfect, but it’s real. And it’s filled with grace. The fact that you’re feeling something about this? That’s not weakness. That’s the Holy Spirit nudging your heart toward healing, not hiding.
Don’t let shame be louder than the call to come back to freedom. You are not your relapse. You’re still worthy of recovery, of peace, and of love. I’m here if you want to talk, pray, or just need someone who gets it.
Jesus still saves. And He can carry you through this. Let’s take that first step together again.
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Sorry to hear about your drinking @Alee9090 but welcome back. It sounds like you turned to alcohol for a relationship, for a connection, when you really should be developing a healthier relationship with yourself and with a healthy sobriety community. It took me a long time to realize that I was trying to find a real connection in my addiction, but it was hollow; I was chasing a ghost.
You’re back here now. How about checking in to stay accountable?
Or sharing memes to show your crazy side?
Or your latest meal?
The point is, stay connected - it’ll keep you safe.
You can do it. You need a sobriety community, and you can do it.
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