Hi, My name is Mayhem. I am new to sobriety. I am 42 days sober today and new to the community as well. I’ve never done this before so if I can ask for patience, understanding, and some good advice. I am 37 yard old, single mom of 3 daughters. Does this get easier? Has it gotten easier for you? What are some things you have learned through out your sobriety that you can possibly pass on to me? All advice and new sober friends would be amazing.
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Congrats on 42 todays!
Life didn’t get easier, but I was able to change. A new freedom and a new happiness. I got better. Life didn’t, in fact? You could say life got “lifey” without masking it with drugs and alcohol and not be entirely false. But I really enjoy being sober today, my outlook on life? Yes. That changed a bunch.
I got sober thru AA
I started learning how to get and stay sober at meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous. Some left to do their own thing. Many have stayed. A few return, and return and return. Yet others live only in our memories now.
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Find A.A. near you: Find A.A. Near You | Alcoholics Anonymous
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A.A. meeting finder app: Meeting Guide | Alcoholics Anonymous
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Directory of online meetings: Meeting Directory – Online Intergroup of Alcoholics Anonymous
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Virtual newcomer packet: https://www.newtoaa.org/ (links to various helpful A.A. pamphlets.)
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Welcome Mayhem 
Congratulations on the 42 days!! That’s amazing!
I don’t know if raising 3 girls alone will ever be easy 
but how grateful is it that you can and will do it sober. What a beautiful gift to them. Gratitude is my strongest tool in my tool box. It’s a beautiful thread to post and read gratitude. It’s retrained my brain. I bet you have a lot to be grateful for with those three miracles 
And there’s a wonderful daily check in thread to meet sober people from all over the world at their different stages of recovery. Some just like you. And one beautiful lady has 3 boys 
Sobriety does get easier. But it takes an open mind and hard work. I’m grateful for calm, clear, hangover free mornings every day. That never gets old.
This is a magical slice of the internet if you use us.
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Welcome!!! So glad you’re here! I’m still pretty new, too, but let me tell you –being sober for the past 90 days has been game changing. I felt so much shame and self-hatred for what I did/said/forgot while I was drinking, and for not just being able to drink like a ‘normal’ person…and that is gone. I am so proud of myself. Waking up sober is WORTH IT. Not having to check my phone the next morning to see what dumb thing I’d said or bought is amazing.
It does get easier. But even my hardest day sober is so much better than my best day drunk. You are looking out for your future self and I love that!
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Solid advice
I messaged some people on my phone some strange stuff lol
At one point i thought i got hacked because i was black out drunk
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Dangerous to be blackout drunk
Cant protect anything
For me , when i finally saw drugs and alcohol was a problem the healing started. Very slow process in the beginning to start to heal mentally. And mental including physical healing will be a continued process every day i am sober
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