Below is a list of common questions that newcomers to the community ask. This FAQ is a Wiki and is maintained by our long term community members. Anyone of Trust level 3 and higher can edit and contribute to this.
Advice for the newcomer
Advice for the Newcomer and Constant Relapser
Posting under the influence
Posting under the influence info
Where do I find a sponsor?
How to get a sponsor
Does AA work?
To A.A. or not to A.A:
What are some good alternatives to AA?
Staying sober without AA
Does anyone else feel that they don’t need AA?:
Should I reset my timer?
Generally speaking, if you are asking this question, then the answer is ‘yes’. There are some very edge-case scenarios where you don’t have to reset, like when you accidentally swallowed some mouthwash. If your goal was to stop drinking/using, and you did intentionally drink/use then you should reset. Be completely honest with yourself. There’s no need for shame here. Relapses are actually a very common and normal part of the recovery process and the important thing is that you learn from them.
How do I know I’m an alcoholic?
(What makes an alcoholic, an alcoholic?):
I had a dream about relapsing. Is it normal?
(Relapse dream last night)
Should I go to the party?
(Weekends, events, parties......tips to stay sober)
Am I ready for a relationship?
(I dont know if ill be able to find a relationship again)
What are common scenarios or reasons for relapsing?
Relapses are usually attributed to certain ‘triggers’: events or scenarios that cause you to relapse. These triggers are different for every person, but there are a few common triggers. Here are a few examples:
- Going to a social event before you’re ready (e.g. a birthday party after one week of sobriety)
- Having extra money to spend (payday just came and you have money to burn)
- Spending too much time with your old drinking/using buddies
There are many more reasons, and it’s advised that you find and avoid your triggers. Have a look at the relapses category to see posts about people who’ve relapsed in the past.
Can I drink non-alcoholic beer?
(Non alcohol beer)
Alcohol free beer - yes or no?
My partner still drinks
(How can I stay sober when I live with someone who drinks?)
(Is it difficult to stay sober if your partner drinks at home?)